There’s a man whose replies have been getting slower and slower, and I have no idea when—or if—we’ll make plans again. (More than that, I feel like if I suggest a date myself, he’ll just come up with an excuse to turn me down.)
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I can’t shake this uneasy, anxious feeling. Would it be a bad idea to message him and say, “If you want to end things or take some time apart, please just tell me honestly”?
If there’s a better way to phrase it, I’d appreciate your advice.
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If you think he’s likely to turn you down, you simply don’t have to contact him.
You don’t need to ask for anything—just walk away on your own.
Use him as practice for learning to do that.
Find at least that much value in the experience.
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> If there’s a better way to phrase it, please let me know.
“ When can we meet again?”
would be perfectly fine, wouldn’t it?
I think you’ll get a sense of things from his response.
If he keeps turning you down vaguely, I think it’s okay to give up. However, he may simply be thinking that he’d like to see other women for the time being.
It’s not that he wants to reject you outright—he just can’t meet right now. Put bluntly, he’s keeping you on the back burner.
But after a while, circumstances may change and he may reach out again.
Conversely, it might be best to keep him on the back burner too.
That said, I think you should also look for new men.
I’m sure there are men out there who will want to see you much, much more.
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