I’m a female member. Between our first meeting and the second time we met, when we became intimate, he always replied quickly when I messaged him on LINE. But since then, his replies have gradually gotten slower. He reads my messages, but doesn’t respond until half a day later or even the next day. Around the same time, our third date was canceled because he suddenly became ill.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. The delayed reply could mean he felt reassured because he knew you could meet anytime. It’s also possible that his third meeting was genuinely canceled because he suddenly became ill. That said, people will usually suggest another date when canceling. I think whether he did or not makes a big difference. If he suggested another date, then something may really have happened, so I think you can feel reassured. If he didn’t, your instincts are probably right, and it seems he may be trying to fade out. So why did his feelings cool after being intimate once? We’d have to ask him to know for sure, but generally speaking, I suspect it may be because he didn’t enjoy it very much. Alternatively, he may have happened to do something that made him think there wouldn’t be a next time.

I’m a male member based in Seattle. Just lying there and doing nothing—being passive during intimacy—is really boring. If it were me, I’d simply say, “Sorry, I don’t think we’re a good match,” and end things. Even if that wasn’t the case, you probably just weren’t compatible. I think it would be wiser to look for someone else.