Maezawa from the Business Planning Office here as well.
A little while ago, there were many posts in the question section that contained content unrelated to the actual question, so our policy was changed.
From now on, posts that contain anything other than the question itself will be deleted, not merely hidden.
This time, because there were many responses, I decided to display them so that the questioner could also take the respondents’ opinions into consideration. However, going forward, anything unrelated to the question will be deleted, so posting anything other than the question will be pointless.
I mentioned this in an earlier response, but I’ll reiterate it just to be safe.
From now on, we will only accept questions.
Now, regarding the request in question:
> If you’re not going to warn people about men like this, then at least give us the option of avoiding them before meeting them.
Since this is a matter of free dating, it would be difficult for us to issue warnings. How about taking steps to protect yourself instead?
When a man sends you an offer, you could reply:
“Are you the kind of man who doesn’t bring up the allowance himself? And do you dislike it when a woman brings up the allowance?”
I think this would give you the option of avoiding him before meeting him.
This is Mac, the columnist.
If that’s Dате◎Yume’s opinion, then so be it—I’m fine with displaying it publicly. The final decision is up to the administrators, of course.
That said, I do think calling it “personal pressure against the anonymous question box” is a bit of an exaggeration（笑）. If you mean that it’s cowardly and distasteful to act sneaky behind the scenes, I can understand that.
Anyway, let me try to answer seriously.
> When you send me an offer, could you at least let me know, “This is a man who won’t bring up allowance himself and also dislikes women bringing it up”?
> Could you ask all the men about this during their interviews?
That’s impossible. Even bringing up allowance can be seen as evidence suggesting organized prostitution. The most Universe can do is discuss ¥5,000–¥10,000 as transportation expenses.
…But I think this questioner already knows that.
There are two kinds of questions:
1. Questions asked because the person genuinely doesn’t understand
2. “Fake questions” phrased as questions, but with some other purpose
I believe this person’s series of “questions” falls into category 2. That’s why I suggested that no answer was necessary.
I think this questioner is actually a very pure and kind-hearted person. Perhaps because of that, she couldn’t handle the stress of a dating club—a world where men and women are constantly trying to outsmart each other. Maybe she’s simply venting all the resentment and frustration that built up inside her.
The only person who can truly “answer” her is someone capable of accepting all of that. A so-called logical answer would only deepen her despair that “men really don’t understand anything.” I feel sorry for her.
Sorry for the unfounded speculation.
Writing this is making me sad too, so I’ll stop here.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Since Mack-san took the time to answer, I think the response should be displayed rather than deleted.
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> This is the same person, isn’t it?
> I think it’s probably the same person who came after me about having sex without protection.
> There’s no need to answer, and I think it would be better not to display this. However, if it is going to be displayed, please delete this comment of mine. Thank you.
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I feel this amounts to personal pressure being applied to the anonymous question box.
I think the very purpose of the anonymous question box is being called into question. This is just my personal opinion, but I think it should be displayed rather than deleted.
I understand what Mack-san is saying. They may well be right.
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> I wonder if she’s a female member of Univa? Or perhaps a former female member?
> Someone who was originally very proud may have endured too much in order to receive money through a dating club, causing their stress to build up to the level of trauma.
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> To all the female members who answer questions: please be careful, because enduring too much just because you’re being paid can distort you emotionally.
However, I also believe that it is the responsibility of the club and its members to make every effort to reduce the number of people who have these kinds of worries and anxieties, and to create relationships where both men and women are treated equally.
At the very least, as the questioner said:
> When I’m offered a date, could you at least tell me, “This man doesn’t bring up the allowance himself, and he also dislikes women bringing up the subject of an allowance”?
> If you aren’t going to warn us about men like this, then at least give us the option of avoiding them before meeting them.
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I think there is certainly room to consider some way for women to avoid such men before meeting them.
Ideally, the club should also improve its feedback system and take measures to help both men and women feel more at ease.
After the first date, however, it becomes a personal matter between the two individuals. The club basically does not get involved. Female members also need to have the resolve to discuss these matters themselves, I believe.
Don’t let a little money right in front of you cloud your judgment.
Female members have the right to say no. Rather than simply putting up with things, I hope they will recognize the right moment to exercise that right and use it effectively.
I hope both men and women can avoid enduring things they don’t want, forcing themselves, or changing the terms after the fact, and instead build a mutually beneficial relationship.
