Why would a man who was so affectionate suddenly stop after six months? He’s already left the dating club, too…
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I know someone who suddenly stopped holding my hand after six months, but still acts affectionate like before during intimate moments, and treats me when we go out to eat.
We’re both in our twenties and close in age, so I thought we were as close as a real couple, but…
Does the fact that we met through a dating club mean that men are bound to cheat? I’m starting to feel confused about everything… (T_T)
Maezawa from the Business Planning Office here as well.
> He suddenly stopped holding my hand after six months.
If there’s a significant age gap, he may not want people to assume it’s papa-katsu. But if you’re close in age, I think he may have found another girlfriend.
He may be avoiding holding hands because he never knows where or by whom he might be seen.
> But he still acts affectionate during intimate moments and treats me to meals.
I think he may have found someone else but still wants to continue seeing you. You must have that much appeal to him.
You mentioned that he quit the dating club, but he may have returned, or he may be using other dating apps.
Even so, I believe he still wants to continue seeing you for now, so I think it’s fine to keep things as they are.
That said, it may also be a good idea to look for someone new, so you’ll be prepared in case things end at any time.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I think it’s best to approach the relationship according to the other person’s level of closeness.
It may also be important to test the waters with a cool head.
Follow the principle of “welcome those who come, and don’t chase those who leave.”
Regardless of whether it’s through a dating club, I believe it’s important to show your own appeal and highlight what sets you apart from others.
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I’m a UC male member and also a member of the new salon.
Let me offer an answer from a different angle as well…
Perhaps the man you were seeing genuinely fell in love with you. Since you met through a dating club, he may have felt afraid of becoming even more serious and thought he shouldn’t let himself get too invested, so he went into self-restraint mode.
Something like that…
I think it’s unlikely, though.
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Column writer Saito here♪
They just got bored. Don’t let it bother you.
I think it’s better to accept that there’s no such thing as forever at a dating club.
They’re only enjoying the intimacy because of their sexual desires.
It may sound cold, but you’ll worry less if you accept it as simply that kind of relationship.
Worrying about it is a waste of time.
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I’m a male member from Seattle.
Men are genetically more prone to cheating than women, so there may be other women involved.
Even if there are several, you may still be his number one. As he gets comfortable, he may naturally become less expressive with his affection.
If you maintain your appeal and keep your place as number one, I feel the others will eventually drop out on their own. If it’s bothering you, I recommend finding a number two of your own to take your mind off it. You might even find a better man.
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