I’m Saito, the column writer♪
I only do it once and have them leave right away, so I really don’t understand the mindset of the men I see.
If the woman changes, they might barely manage a second round, but even with three or more people, it basically ends after one time.
At soaplands, I vaguely remember people mocking guys who got too eager and finished two or three times within their allotted time, calling them something or other. Apparently, they don’t need to become customers. LOL
(It was a story from the good old days when the economy was booming, so I’ve forgotten the details.)
My answer is the same as everyone else’s.
After saying, “It feels raw and sore,” you could later say, “It got inflamed, so I’m going to see a doctor,” and add the cost of the hospital visit to the next allowance.
You could also use that as a way to negotiate reducing the number of times.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
Are you saying that, no matter how much you liked your boyfriend, you never went for a second round when he invited you?
Or is it physically difficult for you?
If there wasn’t a problem when you were with your boyfriend, it might be better to treat the men you meet here in the same way. That would also make it more likely to lead to a long-term arrangement.
On the other hand, if you simply see men as nothing more than money, they’re likely to feel disappointed.
As for how to turn them down: since you say you can’t ask them to “increase the allowance,” it sounds like you’d be okay with a second or third round if the allowance were increased.
In that case, when a man first invites you, why not tell him from the start what you want, without specifically saying it’s for a “second round”?
It may actually end after just one round, but the advantage is that you won’t have to turn him down if it does become a second round.
