This is Saito, a columnist.
It depends on the venue, but in many cases, the men will escort you wonderfully. Whether it’s a Michelin-starred restaurant or a hidden gem, they’ll make you feel special and create a lovely experience—even if conversation doesn’t flow easily, they may chat with the chef at the counter to keep things lively.
So don’t worry.
Even among women from refined backgrounds, everyone has a different personality—some are bright and carefree, for example—so you’ll be fine.
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I’m Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office, and I’ll answer this as well.
Since it’s your first date, I don’t think you necessarily need to use overly formal language. In most cases, speaking politely in a normal, respectful way is probably best, and I feel that comes across more favorably than having the woman speak too casually.
That said, “casual McDonald’s” was a topic of conversation years ago, so if she’s attractive, some people might even find speaking casually charming.
※“Casual McDonald’s” became famous because of a female employee who worked at a McDonald’s in Odaiba about 20 years ago and spoke casually to every customer.
For example, the standard way to ask when someone ordered a hamburger was, “Would you like fries as well?” Every McDonald’s had a set phrase like that.
But this particular employee would ask customers casually, saying something like, “What about fries?”
I happened to stop by when I was in Odaiba at the time, and she was really there. I was amazed. (Laughs) It was a very open-minded restaurant. (Laughs)
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I’m a BB7 male member.
You won’t find women saying things like “Indeed, it is so” in that refined, manga-style ojou-sama manner.
They generally use ordinary, sensible polite language. Once you get comfortable with each other, they naturally loosen up, don’t they?
What comes across as too formal varies from person to person, but responding in overly casual, vulgar language from the very beginning makes me feel like I’ve walked into a cheap hostess club, and it really kills the mood… It’s just not for me.
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I’m Rura, a male member of UC and a member of the new salon.
Just like momo, I’m often told, “It doesn’t feel like this is our first time meeting.”
As for the way I speak, I always start with polite, refined language, such as, “Do you come around this area often?”
Then, as we gradually warm up to each other, I become quite casual by the end of the date.
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
I’m not bad at conversation, so I’ve never experienced an awkward silence. I actually like women who speak casually with me. When I read profiles, women who are extremely poor at communicating usually mention it, so I don’t make them an offer.
I wonder if being with a quiet man would feel like an interview. In that case, would you just talk about cooking and quickly move on to negotiating the evening’s terms?
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