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At our first meeting, a woman in her 30s told me, “My relationship with my husband is terrible. I’m considering getting a divorce.” Would it be safer not to take things further with her? She’s very attractive, but I’m worried that if she comes to rely on me too much emotionally or financially, it could become a burden later on… (A regular pay-per-meeting arrangement would be fine.)

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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > “My relationship with my husband is bad. I’m considering getting a divorce.” That doesn’t seem very reassuring to me. If she were already divorced, you could feel at ease. And if she were in the middle of divorce mediation, I might say it could be worth taking the risk and getting involved, but… If you’re feeling uneasy about it, I think you’d be better off looking for someone else.
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I’m a male member in Seattle. Maybe she simply meant that you’re more attractive than her husband. I can’t tell whether she was being sincere or just flattering you, though. You should be careful if the atmosphere starts crossing the line.
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I’m Rula, a male UC member and a member of the new salon. In a dating club, men have the right to say no as well as women. If the terms don’t work for you, you’re perfectly entitled to turn it down. I think it’s best to simply stick to: “A regular pay-per-meeting arrangement is fine with me.” If she asks for anything more, you can just say, “I’m sorry, but I can’t accommodate that,” and decline.
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I’m Saito, a columnist♪ There’s nothing wrong with getting married through a dating club, but I personally can’t see myself doing that—that’s just how I feel. So if she’s starting to expect more from you than before, I would step away if I were you. Actually, I also get the feeling that the timing may already be a little off...
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