Tips Oct 7, 2019 03:45

Joe’s response to the unprotected-sex issue is excellent. Mac, you really don’t know when to quit.

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It’s not as simple as saying, “Mac and that virgin made up afterward, so it’s nobody else’s business.” The woman who asked the question is angry because she doesn’t want to end up with a man like Mac herself. To women, this isn’t someone else’s problem—it’s personal. There are two types of women who register: A. Women who are willing to do pretty much anything if they’re paid enough. B. Women who register because they want to meet gentlemanly men, feeling that apps and the adult-entertainment industry might involve scary men, regardless of the amount of money. For an A-type woman, meeting a “money-solves-everything” man like Mac can be a win-win. But trying to placate a B-type woman with money comes across as insulting her by saying, “Women are simple, easy creatures who can be bought with enough money.” It’s incredibly offensive. I was once raped by a stranger and received a settlement, but that money was merely the price of ending the dispute because I no longer wanted anything to do with him. I couldn’t possibly celebrate by saying, “Yay! I got this much money just for having sex once!” I thought the perpetrator deserved to go to hell. No matter how many millions you receive, the emotional scars never disappear. This isn’t about money, Mac. It’s about a woman’s pride and a human being’s dignity. Making excuses like, “No, no, I actually did something good,” will only make people despise you more. What Mac should have said was simply: “She forgave me, but I was just lucky. Not all women would react that way. I’ll be more careful from now on.”
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マックさん
🏅 日没を遅らせる唯一の方法は日没に向かって走り続けることだ
名古屋支店登録で、男性会員としての登録名もマックさんです。コラム多数書いてますのでよろしければご参照ください。20代の細身女性が好みで逆オファーには前向きです。経験無いまたは少ない方大歓迎。
Age: 60s 👨 Male Universe member
This is Mac. > To momo, I’ve changed it to “a certain female respondent.” Is this okay? I just want to make it clear that, besides the person who asked the question, one of the female respondents also complained. I’m not trying to pick a fight. I understand that it’s probably best for us to keep our distance, so please don’t worry(笑).
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マックさん
🏅 日没を遅らせる唯一の方法は日没に向かって走り続けることだ
名古屋支店登録で、男性会員としての登録名もマックさんです。コラム多数書いてますのでよろしければご参照ください。20代の細身女性が好みで逆オファーには前向きです。経験無いまたは少ない方大歓迎。
Age: 60s 👨 Male Universe member
This is Mac. Maezawa-san, thank you for following me. > It seems like you’re enjoying attacking Mac now. I thought so too, but if the questioner has actually been raped, then that changes things. I think I’ve become associated with her attacker in her mind, and that’s why she’s so unbearably angry. As I’ve said repeatedly, I’m fundamentally nothing like that person. As a fellow human being, I do want to be considerate of the questioner’s feelings, but asking me to reflect on my actions or apologize is completely misguided. In this situation, doing so would not be good for her emotionally, either. To borrow Maezawa-san’s words: “Please wake up.” Most men, myself included, would never do something so cowardly. And women are all different, too. Please try to look at the world with a more open mind, rather than judging everything solely based on your own experiences.
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Age: Private 👨 Male Universe staff
I’ll also answer this as Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office. I was planning to skip this question, but since Mac answered it, I decided to make it visible. To add my own thoughts: I find myself wondering what the questioner thinks will change about the safety of female members by attacking Mac. Originally, I believe the issue was that men who finish inside a woman without her consent are extremely malicious from a woman’s perspective. I agree with that. And the main question was supposed to be: how can this be prevented? (Although the original topic was actually something else.) But now, it seems like the questioner is simply enjoying attacking Mac. Will anything about women’s safety change as a result of this post? Honestly, hardly anyone is going to admit to doing such things, so the men who are secretly doing them will continue as before. It doesn’t seem like this question will change anything. Moreover, I can’t accept a situation where only the person who was honest ends up suffering the consequences. Even in this case, Mac could simply write: “To be honest, I exaggerated things a little because I wanted to make the story more engaging. In reality, I had obtained her consent from the beginning.” And that would be the end of it. As I’ve said before, outsiders have no way of knowing what the circumstances were at the time. No matter how much people around them complain, if he says the above, it all ends with, “Then what were you so angry about?” What matters most is what the people involved say to each other. With that in mind, if you want to suggest what should be done from here, I think it would be better to explain specifically what you believe would be best. If your position is that this isn’t a matter of “They made up afterward, so it’s none of everyone else’s business,” then please explain what should be done about the people who say nothing other than Mac. Of course, the argument that someone like this should be permanently expelled may seem reasonable at first glance. But is it really? I’m not sure it’s right to force a man to leave based solely on his account, without even confirming the facts with the woman. Even if the argument is, “Someone who makes statements like this might victimize me too, so I want him removed,” it’s also possible that after meeting him, she might say, “Mac was completely different from what he wrote. I’ve met dozens of men, and he was the most gentlemanly of them all.” (I’ve never met him, so I wouldn’t know, though(笑).) It would also be strange to expel someone whom various women have described as a good man. Given that, I think the most reasonable standard under the current circumstances is to make something grounds for forced expulsion when negative feedback is actually received from a woman. If you believe that would be too late, then please tell us specifically what would make women feel safe. I think situations like this are much more dangerous outside Universe. On apps, for example, men may simply disappear. Isn’t it fairly common for women to look for a man afterward and be unable to find him? In that respect, Universe keeps records of the men’s identities, and men who receive negative feedback are forcibly removed so that only good men remain. It isn’t perfect, but we are doing as much as can reasonably be done under the circumstances. That’s why I believe Universe is quite safe. > I’ll respond in advance to Maezawa’s point: The 20 million yen was just an example. 200 million yen was far beyond what I imagined, but it’s clear from his writing that he approaches women with that level of resolve. That may be precisely why women become close to him. I think women can tell the difference between men who have that resolve and men who don’t. If anything, it’s more dangerous when someone without that kind of resolve engages in such behavior. In that case, I believe the woman should pursue criminal charges for forced sexual intercourse, as well as file a civil lawsuit. If the man pretends nothing happened, she could even go directly to his company, explain the entire situation to the receptionist, and say that she came to discuss it. If he holds a certain position, she could provide the information to the media. If he belongs to a particular professional or industry association, she could consult that organization as well. Various options come to mind. (Depending on how it’s done, she could end up breaking the law herself, so it’s important not to act rashly.) I believe women should fight back against men as much as possible. Universe also has information about the men. Although personal information is protected, in circumstances like these, I personally feel that such men cannot simply be forgiven. If the necessary documents are prepared, disclosure may be permitted under personal information protection laws as well. We can probably explain what needs to be changed and what needs to be included. (I’m putting it simply, but the requirements are actually quite strict.) In such cases, evidence is crucial. The man’s bodily fluids remaining inside the woman can be important evidence, so she needs to go to the police and a hospital and ensure that the evidence is preserved.
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マックさん
🏅 日没を遅らせる唯一の方法は日没に向かって走り続けることだ
名古屋支店登録で、男性会員としての登録名もマックさんです。コラム多数書いてますのでよろしければご参照ください。20代の細身女性が好みで逆オファーには前向きです。経験無いまたは少ない方大歓迎。
Age: 60s 👨 Male Universe member
This is Mac again. I wanted to add a little clarification so I don’t cause any more misunderstandings. When I said it “just happened,” I meant that it started as part of the play. At the time, I clearly asked her verbally, “Do you want to try finishing inside without a condom?” She said yes, so I intended it to be a one-time thing—but she ended up liking it. Maybe she also enjoys the sense of superiority that comes from being the only one I’m with without a condom, while I use condoms with the other women. In fact, she’s the only one I’m currently seeing that way.
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マックさん
🏅 日没を遅らせる唯一の方法は日没に向かって走り続けることだ
名古屋支店登録で、男性会員としての登録名もマックさんです。コラム多数書いてますのでよろしければご参照ください。20代の細身女性が好みで逆オファーには前向きです。経験無いまたは少ない方大歓迎。
Age: 60s 👨 Male Universe member
This is Mac. > “That virgin woman happened to forgive you, but you were simply lucky. Not every woman is like that, right? Please be more careful from now on.” I didn’t bother writing that because I thought it was obvious… Of course I think that way too. I don’t think for a second that “women are simple, easy creatures who can be made to do anything as long as you pay them.” I give them an allowance with genuine gratitude, thinking that there’s no way someone would have sex with someone like me without receiving any money. I really mean that. I’ve always had low self-esteem as a man. If the questioner has a history of being raped, then I understand why you found it unpleasant. I’d like to say that I was inconsiderate as an answerer, but please reread the original question that started this whole thing: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/2436 —and the other people’s answers as well. Reading it, I felt sorry for the questioner. That’s why I simply wrote about my own experience. Looking at the backlash I received afterward from various women, including one particular female respondent, I wonder if you’ve all had various unpleasant experiences and are projecting the image of the bad men you’ve encountered in the past onto a man you’ve never even met, attacking me because of that… I understand how you feel, but I have no intention of apologizing to you on behalf of the man who raped you. I’m a different kind of person from that rapist. The questioner and that female respondent may not be able to imagine this, but there really are women who have no opportunities to meet anyone and join apps or Universe because they want to lose their virginity. I’m not trying to conflate the issue of unprotected sex with the issue of virginity. I’m pointing out that women, too, are genuinely diverse—there aren’t only categories A and B as the questioner describes. Just as men vary widely, women do too. This may cause another uproar, but there was another woman I started seeing while she was still a virgin, and we eventually had unprotected sex. She was in her late twenties and cute, but she hadn’t had much luck meeting men. I met her through an app. She told me, “I don’t need any money. But I want to choose the man myself, so please wait until I’ve met the other people too and made my decision.” I waited two months, she chose me, and I was the one who took her virginity. Of course, I gave her an allowance and used a condom. After that, though, things naturally developed into an unprotected relationship. So, as an addition to my answer to the person who “wants to have unprotected sex with a virgin,” maybe it doesn’t have to happen that way from the very beginning—it could happen somewhere along the way. Wouldn’t that be satisfactory? It’s been a year since she lost her virginity, and according to her, she still hasn’t met anyone else and I’m the only one. Every month, shortly before her period, she messages me saying, “My period is coming soon. Would it be possible for you to see me?” By “because my period is coming soon,” she doesn’t mean that she’s aroused; she means, “I can have unprotected sex right now, so would you please meet me?” I’m planning to see her tonight as well. She isn’t taking the pill, so the chance of pregnancy isn’t zero, but we’re both comfortable with the arrangement. If she did become pregnant, I’d be willing to let her have the child, and I’d also go with her to the hospital, like Saito did. Of course, if she gets a boyfriend, I’ll step aside. But I’ve taught her how to orgasm and have multiple orgasms, so she may end up never getting married. Let me respond to Maezawa’s criticism from my previous answer: if this girl ever wanted money, I’d give her not 20 million yen, but even 200 million yen. But I believe—and the reason this has continued is—that she isn’t the kind of person who would say something like that. Still, if she ever encountered a serious problem in life and came to me for help, I’d do anything I could for her. She is one of the precious goddess figures in my heart.
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