[Opinion]

I’m Saito, a column writer♪ Taking the condom off partway through feels kind of malicious to me. If you’re going to say you want to go without one, you should negotiate that from the start instead of putting one on first and removing it later. Of course, if they refuse, the polite thing is not to pressure them.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here, answering as well. A… question… box… Anyway… That’s a good suggestion. I think the staff on the front lines want to shorten interview times, so rather than focusing on warnings, they probably want to prioritize asking about aspects of a woman’s profile that could lead to an offer. I’m not sure how much of your suggestion they’ll adopt, but I agree that this approach would be better. > Even now, I sometimes hesitate to speak frankly because I wonder whether giving too much negative feedback about men might hurt my own evaluation. Staff are human too, and some staff members are quite biased toward the men. If someone criticizes a man that staff member likes, they may become emotional and even label the woman as a complainer. I happened to see an exchange like that a little while ago, and it really surprised me. Because of that risk, you need to be careful about how you write your feedback. By “being careful,” I simply mean: “Report only the facts.” When people get angry, they tend to include their feelings along with the facts, saying things like: “How are you going to make up for what this awful person did to me?” or “Why don’t you ban someone like this?” Even when feedback contains those kinds of emotions, I personally can focus only on the factual aspects. However, not every staff member is capable of doing that. Unfortunately, that isn’t something that can be fixed easily, so I think it would be best if you could stick to: “Write only the facts.”

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. That’s a good point. When I first joined, I didn’t really understand what a dating club was all about, so I read through all the columns—Darling, Cinderella, and the branch columns—as well as the anonymous question box, and then decided on my own approach to dating. Even after I started seeing women, there were times when problems came up. Whenever that happened, the club handled things very carefully, so I think you should feel free to stay in touch with them as you continue using the service. > Even now, I sometimes wonder, “If I give too much negative feedback about men, will my own rating go down?” So there are times when I can’t be completely honest. The club staff are professionals. They have information on all kinds of situations, so I don’t think they would let one person’s opinion or information affect someone’s evaluation. Also, if they decide that something is important, I believe they’ll respond promptly, even if it’s based on just one incident. If they don’t take action, you could always ask about it through this anonymous question box. That said, if you point out too many minor details, they might think you’re a little overly sensitive（笑）.