Why do respondents say things that give people false hope?

I’m BB7, a male member. I don’t think the other respondents are necessarily giving people false hope. Some of what they write is actually pretty harsh. Our writing and choice of words are inevitably colored by our current thoughts, emotions, and values, so I think how someone interprets the meaning is ultimately up to them. If they take it as giving people hope, they’ll probably see even the subtle nuances that way. If they think, “That’s a pretty harsh thing to say,” they’ll interpret it that way instead. Also, I do agree that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t as easy as some people think. However, whether someone continues or quits is their own decision, and I don’t think it’s for other people to tell them what to do. > Even if an offer comes in, the amount women in the lower tiers can receive is limited. They could probably earn that much through a regular job or part-time work without selling their bodies. Even if you work on an appearance with limited potential, improve your ability to deal with older men, or hone your sexual skills, none of that will remain ten years from now. You’d be far better off developing your mind—it will earn you much more and remain your own asset. There may be an oversupply of women in the dating market, but the business world is short on workers. Some women will agree and quit papa-katsu. Others will understand but continue, while some will keep going because they don’t share that view. Which path they choose is ultimately a matter of personal free will.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > Why do the people answering these questions say things that give us false hope? Hmm. I think it’s because there really is a possibility. Since we haven’t even seen your face, for all we know, you may have been placed in the Standard class even though you’re actually attractive enough for the Platinum class. That would be a staff member’s misjudgment. In that case, you could receive a flood of offers even as a Standard member, including quite a few from Platinum-class men. And if you’re attractive enough to qualify for Platinum, you could potentially become good enough for Black with some effort. So when you say “a lower class,” we don’t know whether you mean Standard or Gold. And even Standard members experience situations like the one described above, so I don’t think it’s fair to say that there’s no hope across the board. Even women who are normally placed in the Standard class do receive offers. Once you actually meet a man, it’s entirely possible to win him over through your personality. You mentioned that you’re a woman, but haven’t you ever had the experience of seeing a woman you thought was less attractive than you get quite a lot of attention? A woman who is attentive to the little things in everyday life may be even more considerate when she’s alone with a man, surprising him in the best way. That makes a long-term relationship more likely, and it’s also possible that the man will really take a liking to her and give her a generous allowance. If you’re thinking about how to “handle” men, they may have seen right through you. Rather than thinking about how to handle men, I think it would have been better to consider what makes men happy and what makes them find a woman wonderful. Of course, I also think improving yourself intellectually is an excellent idea. So naturally, you should consider all of these things before making your decision.

I’m Saito, a column writer♪ I understand where the questioner is coming from, and the respondent’s opinion is also a reality. I mentioned a woman who moved up from Standard to Black, and she had genuinely worked hard—anyone could see that. Neither answer is 100% definitive, so I do think there’s at least some possibility. However, nothing will change if you give up on making the effort.

I’m Rula, a UC male member and a member of the new salon. I think the questioner’s opinion comes from their own experience, and I agree with what they’re saying. > Even if you work on your looks—though there’s only so much you can improve—or get better at handling older men and at sex, you’ll have nothing left ten years from now. You’d make far more money by developing your mind, and that would remain as your own asset. There may be more women than men in the dating market, but the business world is short on people. That is the questioner’s personal view, and no one can deny them the right to feel that way. With that perspective, I hope they continue improving themselves along the path they believe in. However, I do question this part: > “Looks aren’t everything, but if you don’t look good to begin with, no one will even notice you,” and “Even if women in the lower tiers improve their looks or undergo cosmetic surgery, they can’t compete with naturally beautiful women.” Are these really universal “facts”? Can we truly say there are absolutely no cases where someone thinks, “Her looks weren’t particularly impressive, but I became interested in her personality because her profile was appealing, so I made her an offer”? Or where, after a woman in the lower tiers improves both her appearance and her personality, she becomes more popular than a naturally beautiful woman whose personality isn’t very appealing? I think it’s perfectly reasonable to draw on your own experiences and think, “This is how I see things, and this is what I want to do.” However, isn’t it risky to speak as though your own experiences prove that “this is the universal truth”? Everything has many different sides. I wanted to comment because I feel that imagining, accepting, and trying to understand those various perspectives can lead to a richer life. (Sorry, this turned into a much bigger topic than I intended, so maybe I didn’t directly answer the question after all… lol.)

I’m a male member in Seattle. My favorite person is on a standard monthly arrangement for 150,000 yen. I wouldn’t say that’s a lot, but I think we’re both very satisfied with things as they are. Maybe I should either polish my appearance or improve my technique—or perhaps both.