How should I put this? I feel like I’d like to let her experience, at least a little while she’s young, the happiness of being doted on and made to feel special. If it’s kept within reasonable limits, it might help build her self-esteem and have a positive impact on the rest of her life…
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I think this is a fairly pure and sincere part of me, but I also worry that I’m simply fooling myself—that it’s nothing more than an older man’s self-important delusion…
If you have any feelings or principles that you consider important in your relationships, I’d love to hear them.
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
I always tell them, “This isn’t a place to stay for long.”
Youth doesn’t last forever, so unless they clearly understand that they’re spending a limited amount of time here for a specific goal and to learn from the experience, they won’t grow into very good adults.
I’ve seen countless women like that. I feel it’s especially common among women from wealthy families.
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I’m a male member, BB7.
The feelings—or perhaps principles—I try to value in a relationship are:
- Respecting the other person as a human being rather than treating her like an object, and not treating her as someone who’s merely convenient for me.
- Not expecting anything from her or asking for anything in return.
That’s about it, I suppose.
That said, I still find myself getting my hopes up about women and then feeling disappointed, so I still have a lot to learn. ・ﾟ・(ノД`)・ﾟ・
I think the self-esteem the questioner mentioned is very important. For girls who lack confidence or feel especially insecure, in particular, it can help build their confidence.
Please praise her—but not so much that she gets conceited and carried away. (If you overdo it, she may transform into a queen-bee type.)
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
> If it’s done in moderation, it could help build her self-esteem and have a positive impact on the rest of her life…
I can’t say for sure whether that’s correct, but if you’re acting with her best interests in mind, I think the time you spend together will be enjoyable, and there’s a good chance she’ll see you in a special light as well.
That said, many women are already showered with attention in their everyday lives, so in those cases, I’m not sure it would have much meaning.
For a woman who doesn’t seem to receive much attention normally, it might have the kind of effect you describe.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
It’s true that being acknowledged by someone can boost your confidence.
When you feel like you’re being watched—or even just noticed—you naturally start paying more attention to your appearance and mannerisms.
I do think it has a positive impact on the other person.
That said, some people think they’re being noticed when they’re really not, and then overreact（笑）. Watching those people is honestly the only way I can describe it—as entertaining...
What I value is giving a compliment right away whenever I see or hear something and think, “That’s nice.”
① You look great today—very chic.
② Hmm, I like the way you think!
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I’m Lula, a male member of UC and the new salon.
The principles I strongly believe in are:
● I need to keep improving myself so that when I’m walking alongside a woman I met through a dating club, people around us won’t think, “That’s papa-katsu!”
● “A man’s cleanliness—including his physique and fashion—is the first, and greatest, form of escorting a woman.”
Having this mindset has at least improved my health, and I feel great every day(^^♪)
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