I’ve been stood up repeatedly too.

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ I also think it would be a good idea to report it to the club. You could also try updating your profile photos with a different approach, or ask whether there are any events you could attend even if they’re held farther away. That said, events generally have twice as many women as men, so unless you stand out in some way—enough to rank in the top half… no, probably the top 30%—it may be difficult. I can really feel the weight behind Leaf’s words about “waiting.” If you’re able to make the effort to attend an event, please contact me through the club. If the timing works out and I’m able to go too, I’d be happy to cover something around the cost of transportation.

I’m BB7, a male member in my late 40s. I think it’s best to exclude both men and women who repeatedly cancel at the last minute. Take the mistress assessment, keep your schedule updated, flesh out your profile, upload private photos… Read through this forum carefully and learn what kind of women men actually want to make offers to（笑） You’ll get a better idea of what to highlight and what kinds of things to include in your profile, so there’s still plenty you can do!

I’m a male member based in Seattle. I agree with Mr. Maezawa’s suggestion that men who stand someone up should also have it noted in their profiles. I’d like to see such unreliable men excluded from the service.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. > I’ve also been stood up several times in a row. I understand how you feel—getting your hopes up, only to hear nothing for weeks. > Are they all like that? At least, I’ve never stood anyone up. I imagine most other male members are responsible and care about their reputation, so very few would cancel at the last minute. That said, situations where you absolutely have to cancel can always come up. > I’m registered in a regional area, and apart from attending events or getting “You’re lovely!” messages, are there any other ways to meet someone? I’m in a regional area too, and since there are fewer members than in the cities, I suppose there are simply fewer potential matches. Let’s keep doing our best. With that in mind, here are a few ideas off the top of my head: 1. Choose a more proactive relationship type. 2. Have your photos retaken to change your overall image. 3. In your comments and relationship profile, explain the kind of arrangement you’re looking for, and add something like, “I’m not expecting too much when it comes to age, appearance, allowance, or financial support” (lol). 4. Ask the branch staff whether they know anyone who might be a good match for you. Why not start by trying these four things? Wishing you the best of luck.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this one as well. He’s an awful man for going back on his promise. If he really forgot, common sense would dictate that he immediately make another appointment and make up for it somehow—but apparently, he isn’t exactly a reasonable person. In a previous question, many people said that if a woman stood someone up after the second date, it would be best to report her to the club and have it noted on her profile, so that no one else would fall victim to her. So if a man stands you up, it might be a good idea to submit a post-date survey to the club as well. They might then add something like this to his introduction when he receives an offer: “We have received reports that he may stand someone up even after beginning an arrangement. Please think carefully about whether you wish to accept his offer.” That could also serve as a deterrent for men who wouldn’t want something like that written about them. > I registered hoping to meet one person who could see me once or twice a month and support me. When it comes to this, compatibility is a factor. Even if you intend from the beginning to stick with just one person, as you continue seeing them, you may realize that something doesn’t feel right. Men may not like me saying this, but I think it’s better to initially see multiple men discreetly and consider which one might be suitable for a long-term arrangement. > Since I’m registered in a regional area, are there any other options besides attending events or having “You’re lovely!” written on my profile? If you’re registered in a regional area, there probably aren’t many events, and there’s also the issue of having fewer men making offers. As for what you can do, it would probably come down to having your photos retaken or changing the comments you’re allowed to write on your profile. That said, I think people registered in regional areas are more likely to be approved for a reshoot, so why not ask whether you can have your photos taken again?

I’m Seattle, a male member. That sounds really difficult. What an awful man. How about updating your profile and writing more about your hobbies and interests?