I’m a woman considering coming in for an interview sometime before the end of the year, but despite being in my early 20s, I have a rather mature-looking face.
Even in college, the ladies working the register at the co-op and in the cafeteria sometimes mistook me for someone’s parent. When I worked at a hostess bar, customers also frequently told me, “You look like you’re in your 30s,” or, “You have a certain poise and calmness about you.”
I assume the members’ site has search functions that allow them to filter women by age, overall vibe, and so on. But I imagine that men who search specifically for “a young woman in her 20s” are probably looking for someone lively and youthful, or with a trendy, youthful sense of style.
When I think about it that way, I can’t help wondering whether there would be any demand for someone like me, who almost always gets mistaken for being older than she is and whose hobbies are also somewhat old-fashioned—or perhaps more mature and understated.
I’d really appreciate hearing the opinions of the men here.
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Kida, the representative, will answer.
First of all, you’re mistaken.
You don’t just have an older-looking face—you actually look older.
For starters, no woman in her early twenties uses the word “standard playbook.”
The writing itself has this reassuring “Are you someone’s parent?” kind of stability.
And choosing a snack bar rather than a hostess club is another remarkably telling detail.
What you’re worried about, then, is that among the “women in their early twenties” on offer, you’ll end up being placed in the parental-figure category, right?
You probably have a really vivid imagination and are quite intelligent.
You can even write “jōseki” correctly.
So it might be worth going into the interview with a strategy based on your character. For example, dressing and acting like a snack-bar old lady à la Tsubaki Oniyakko, or playing the character of the busty neighborhood auntie who’s always taking out the trash in the morning.
You might also want to browse DMM and study men’s preferences.
It’s best to make the character easy to understand.
“Plain but busty,” for example, or “a young mother who gets into a transactional relationship with a relative”—those are global trends right now.
Anyone who can write such an entertaining post is someone I’d definitely like to interview myself…
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Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here.
I don’t think looking older than your age has much of an impact.
It really comes down to whether you have the kind of look men tend to like.
To put it more specifically, women who look refined and innocent yet have a certain sex appeal seem more likely to receive offers.
(Of course, there’s no such thing as a woman who appeals to everyone—it probably just means there happen to be men who like that type.)
So, based on what you’ve written, it’s impossible to tell whether there’s demand for you.
I believe there’s truly a need for every type of woman. However, sometimes that doesn’t come across in photos, and no offers come in.
I recommend coming in for an interview and registering.
Don’t wait until the end of the year—there’s no time like the present.
Why not make a reservation right now?
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I’m BB7, a male member in my late 40s.
When a woman is in her early 20s and looks very young, I can only see her as a child, so I hesitate to make an offer. (I’m not into that sort of thing.)
On the other hand, I find it easier to make an offer to someone who looks older than her actual age, because I feel less awkward about it. When we’re walking together, I’m also less concerned about what people around us might think.
I suppose it depends on the man’s age, but I’m not really into bubbly, youthful types. So when I make offers to women in their 20s, I tend to choose those who seem more mature than their age, look older than they are, and don’t blindly follow trends.
When it comes to fashion and makeup, there’s a fine line between looking mature and looking matronly, so I think it’s fine as long as you’re careful about that.
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Male member, Seattle.
Regardless of age, I check out all the newcomers. You might only get one chance to make a first impression.
You may have a chance if you stand out in some way through your hobbies or personality.
My favorite person is in her 30s. Personality plays a role, and being close to home may just be luck too.
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