If a woman tells you from the start that she’s okay with a relationship without an allowance, would you feel lucky?

I’m Saito, the column writer♪ Women like that do exist. I get the impression that they’re often highly educated. They receive money from other men, so they don’t want any from me. They’re more interested in experiencing something out of the ordinary or learning from someone who runs a business. I feel this is especially common among women in their twenties and college students. I’ve also come across women who are looking for someone they can respect because they don’t respect the company they work for or their current boss. That said, I joined because I want to meet women I’d be willing to pay just to spend time with—not women who meet for free. So I’ve never continued seeing a woman who didn’t accept an allowance.

I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well. If she said from the start that she was fine with not receiving an allowance, I think I’d ask her why. If her reason made sense, I’d see her as a wonderful woman. However, if the man had experienced trouble with a woman in the past, I think he would probably end the relationship afterward so as not to repeat the same thing. For that reason, I think it’s better to begin with an arrangement that includes an allowance, learn what the man is thinking as you spend time together, and then steer things in the direction he wants. A woman who can do that may be able to maintain the relationship longer. People have all kinds of views, so I don’t think there’s one answer that’s right for everyone.

I’m BB7, a male member in my late 40s. If she told me from the very first meeting that she didn’t need an allowance, my first reaction would be, “What????” Then I’d ask why. Depending on her reason, I might agree to meet for free, but I’d still be wary that there was some ulterior motive—like her being extremely unstable, running a honey trap, or spying for a rival agency. I once had a free relationship with someone I was having an affair with because we had genuine feelings for each other. But meeting someone for the first time through a dating agency and not paying an allowance? That’s basically unheard of.

I’m a confused man in my 60s. Just as there are male members who join a dating club despite not wanting to get married for the time being, I think there are women who feel the same way. So if a woman says she doesn’t want an allowance, I don’t find that strange. I actually dated someone like that. She had broken up with a man she’d been seeing with marriage in mind. She was lonely, but couldn’t move on to another relationship right away—and certainly didn’t want to go to a matchmaking agency—so she registered with the club... As a result, there was no allowance involved. She was a wonderful woman, and it turned out to be a short-term relationship until she found her next partner, which eventually led to marriage. There were no problems at all. I’ve also dated a university student who openly wrote in her profile, “I don’t need an allowance! I’m only looking for adult compatibility!!” There were no issues with her either... Both women were registered as Type B, and I made sure to ask them properly about their reasons at the first meeting... Just to be clear, I’m not deliberately targeting women like this. I’ve also met women who wanted an allowance, even when I thought their class was completely out of the question. The results were... surprisingly good... lol People have all kinds of values and ways of thinking. It seems a shame to assume that, because it’s a dating club, an allowance is automatically expected... I’m perfectly open to it. I wouldn’t go so far as to call it lucky, but I would treat the relationship with care...

I’m Ruler, a male member of UC and a member of the new salon. Personally, I’d be wary too. Since we met through a dating club, having an allowance is the basic premise. That premise isn’t absolutely unchangeable—if our feelings deepened into a genuinely close relationship over time, we might eventually decide to see each other without an allowance. However, it would naturally take a considerable amount of time for two people’s feelings to develop that far. It’s hardly realistic for that kind of bond to form after meeting for just a few hours the first time. So if she said from the very first meeting, “No allowance,” I’d wonder whether there was some ulterior motive. Also, if a woman was genuinely looking for someone to date without an allowance, a dating club isn’t really where she should be looking. I’d think she was rather thoughtless for registering without even understanding that basic premise. So no matter how attractive she was, I’d decide not to pursue anything with her. To answer the question: I wouldn’t think I’d gotten lucky, and I wouldn’t feel especially inclined to treat her well. I’d just be surprised and think, “What’s with this person?”

I’m Seattle, a male member. The reason I’m in a dating club instead of pursuing marriage is that with a dating club, you’re free to end things whenever you want. I don’t want to get married. I suppose I’d only continue without an allowance if I met someone so wonderful that I’d be willing to marry her, with marriage as the goal.