I’m confused because the club staff member’s answer and the male member’s answer point in completely different directions.

I’m Joe, a columnist. As many of you have pointed out, every relationship is highly individual, so it’s difficult to generalize. When similar opinions from male members keep appearing in this anonymous Q&A forum, it’s easy to assume they represent men as a whole—but that isn’t the case. I’m sure all the respondents are aware of that as well. Also, it’s only natural that staff and male members see things differently. After all, their interests are fundamentally at odds. If every male member found a woman they liked after just one offer and then left, Universe wouldn’t have much of a business left. So rather than focusing on which side is “right,” I hope you’ll carefully judge for yourself. I wish you the best in meeting a wonderful man.

I’m BB7, a male member in my late 40s. I’m sure Mr. Maezawa will answer regarding the club rules, since rules are rules. As for the other respondents, everyone has different perspectives and relationship styles, so I think you should take their answers as reference only. > Since we receive an allowance, shouldn’t we be grateful rather than assume we’re entitled to be treated well? Among the women I’ve actually met, very few gave me the impression that they thought they were entitled to be treated well. Of course, I can’t know what’s in their hearts. But rather than feeling entitled, I wonder if some women simply enjoy being treated like a princess in a way they normally aren’t. Personally, I believe gratitude is important whether or not money is involved. Regardless of the type of relationship, I won’t meet a woman again if she isn’t appreciative or seems to take being treated well for granted.

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer your question. Are you referring to the question that said: “Most male members suspect a woman of misrepresenting her dating type unless she agrees to an adult relationship (intimate) on the second date with a Type B woman...”? First of all, misrepresenting your dating type is subject to penalties. In serious cases, membership is terminated. With that premise in mind, I answered from the perspective of whether this particular situation would constitute dating-type fraud. (It doesn’t, so she can register as Type B.) That said, there can indeed be differences in understanding between the women and male members. For example, our rule is that transportation money must always be given on the first date. Yet we occasionally receive feedback from women saying, “I had a hard time getting the ¥5,000–¥10,000 transportation allowance because a man who lived nearby said, ‘Why should I give you transportation money when you didn’t spend anything on transportation?’” We explain this properly when members join, but because it’s called “transportation money,” people’s memories seem to change over time. So I think it’s fair to say that differences in understanding do occur. Even so, we’re doing our best to ensure that women don’t actually end up having trouble. Another feature of this site is that it offers a variety of different answers. I think it’s best to understand that there isn’t necessarily one single correct answer. If you feel that this answer was helpful to you, then that’s what matters most.

I’m Saito, a column writer♪ What I write here is simply my personal perspective. I’d appreciate it if you took it as just one of many possible answers. If I had to say, it might be a little risky to make judgments based solely on this Q&A site. It’s probably best to think, “Oh, so this is one way of looking at it,” and leave it at that.

I’m in my 60s and still trying to find my way. I think Mr. Maezawa is right. I don’t mean to be rude to those who answered, but I think it’s best to take their responses simply as, “I see—there are people like that, too…” Lately, though, I feel that some people take what is merely their own personal stance and generalize it to the entire club, saying things like, “Men are like this” or “Women are like that.” It often makes me think, “That doesn’t sound quite right… Have you really had enough experience to state it that categorically?” Personal experiences are helpful and appreciated, but what do you think about phrasing things as though they’ve figured everything out from those experiences alone?