Are there any tips for finding a good woman through a dating club? I feel like my success rate has been slipping lately…

Takahashi from the Yokohama branch here. I believe what constitutes a “good woman” varies from member to member. Given the services included with each registration class, my first suggestion would be to contact our staff by phone or another method to ask for advice. Of course, there are some things we can’t accommodate, but we do our very best to make introductions so that you’ll be satisfied and think, “I’m glad I asked—thank you.” As for improving your “batting average,” this really comes down to the actual offer. You could casually communicate in advance what your ideal date would be with that woman. If she understands and says, “I’d definitely like to meet,” then go for it. Thank you for your consideration.

Nishijima from the Hiroshima branch here. As for tips on meeting a good woman, I believe the first step is to ask the club staff about anything that concerns you, just as the other staff members have suggested. I’ll skip the explanation, since similar points have already been made. Beyond that, I think it’s important not to form fixed assumptions or have excessively high expectations based solely on a woman’s profile, and not to judge someone you’ve only just met as simply “good” or “bad.” Profiles contain a great deal of information about women, but if you decide, “She’s exactly my ideal type!” or “She’s definitely going to be ___,” you may end up feeling completely disappointed if she differs even slightly from your image when you meet her in person. That can lead to the worst possible outcome—one that makes nobody happy. Everyone has shortcomings that can’t be seen through text or photos. While women are very happy when you look forward to your date, I believe it can also feel suffocating for them when someone they’re meeting for the first time expects more than they can reasonably deliver. I assume you’ve already been attracted to a woman’s appearance and made her an offer. So even if you notice aspects of her personality that you don’t like during the date, they may disappear—or simply stop bothering you—as you get to know each other better. I hope this was at least somewhat helpful. Thank you, and I look forward to assisting you.

Yoshida from the Chiba branch here. Finding the right woman is a difficult question. If there were a foolproof method, everyone would have a perfect success rate. That said, I believe there are ways to prevent mismatches in advance. After all, what makes someone “a good woman” differs from person to person and depends on who is making the judgment. Among other things, I think it’s wise to trust your first impression. It can be difficult to change that impression during a short meeting. Please take the first impression you get from her photos, videos, and profile seriously. Of course, we also encourage you to consider the first impression of the staff member who handled the interview from start to finish. Please feel free to contact us.

Matsuda from the Nagoya branch here. I’m sorry to hear that you haven’t been able to meet any wonderful women lately. We apologize for not providing a satisfactory match between you and the women you’ve met. Negative qualities—such as replying late, being late, or having a poor attitude—are easy to recognize. However, I feel that a good match often comes down to finding someone you click with, which can be difficult to define. If you’re available, would you be willing to set aside some time to discuss your preferences with the staff member in charge and make sure we’re on the same page? We’d like to hear more about what you’re looking for and share any impressions the staff may have had firsthand.

Kaori Kitamura from the Tokyo branch will be answering your question. May I assume that by “a good woman,” you mean a woman who suits your preferences? There’s only so much we can tell you on the site, so I recommend asking our staff as many detailed questions as possible. The services available also vary depending on your membership level, but we do our best to tell you as much as we can about the interview, what happens after registration, and, if we don’t recommend someone, to be honest about that as well. For example, we may tell you things like: “Her looks and relationship type are both excellent, but… to be honest, she’s rather cynical and has a difficult personality,” or “She was great at first, but after getting used to things, she seems to have become jaded,” or “You seem to be the type of person she’s not comfortable with, so I don’t think it would be a good match.” We may share such candid opinions, if I may be so bold.

Toratani from the Kyoto branch will answer your question. ---------------------------- Thank you very much for your question. As for the key to being introduced to a good woman, honestly, the answer depends largely on the individual. That said, here are a few things you can use as a minimum guideline: 1. Whether she has qualities you’re personally attracted to 2. Her approach to relationships 3. How she interacts with the club 4. Her responsiveness First, regarding point 1, you need to feel attracted to her to begin with; otherwise, you won’t feel like meeting her, so this is the most basic prerequisite. For point 2, it may be helpful to ask the club staff about her reaction and overall demeanor when they discussed her relationship preferences during the interview. Likewise, for points 3 and 4, I recommend asking the club staff for their impressions. The reason is that if she is at least polite and well-mannered toward the club staff, we can usually expect her to observe basic etiquette and behave appropriately during the date as well. On the other hand, if she has trouble even with that, the club may not be able to recommend her with confidence, and depending on the circumstances, the date may not turn out to be enjoyable. Of course, there are times when even the club staff get things wrong... If you feel that asking the club staff is pointless, then it may be best to set your own minimum requirements, such as: - Age - Height - Weight - Relationship type If you decide not to make an offer unless she meets your criteria, you may have a better chance of meeting someone you genuinely like. What do you think? I hope this helps. Best regards.

Let me answer first, though I’ve also asked the staff at our various branches for their input, since I may not be able to convey the realities of the field firsthand. First, please forgive me for giving a somewhat harsh and unpleasant opinion. The moment you say, “I feel like my batting average for finding good women is starting to drop,” you’re already at zero points. You should either take a恋愛教室 course again or buy some so-called “foolproof dating” information product and study up. Businesspeople and strategists often say, “Put yourself in the other person’s shoes.” When you go on dates thinking: “I got a good one this time.” “I got a bad one this time.” “My batting average is looking pretty bad.” the other person is probably thinking the same thing: “I got a good man this time.” “I got a bad man this time.” “His batting average is looking pretty bad.” There’s no need to judge every encounter as a hit or a miss, like tapping a watermelon to see if it’s ripe. Every meeting is an encounter and an experience, and if things don’t go well, you should take full responsibility yourself. Trying to find good women without putting in that kind of work is simply asking for too much. (When you think, “I got a good woman this time!” do you think she feels the same way about you?) I don’t really know the secret to choosing good women, so I may be covering that up with a bit of idealistic talk. Still, I think having that kind of mindset is important. Are men whose dates always go well simply good at choosing women? I don’t think that’s the whole story. Perhaps they’re putting themselves in the other person’s shoes. On a site where both men and women can see these posts, referring to women as hits or misses—as though they were lottery prizes—is already inconsiderate. And precisely because this is anonymous, a person’s true character comes through. I highly recommend reading a book written by the late Kosuke Nozaki, known as the “Don Juan of Kishu.” It’s packed with techniques that are subtle, don’t make the other person uncomfortable, and are difficult to refuse, such as: ・The “deliberately trip in front of a beautiful woman, have her help you up, and then say, ‘Please let me treat you to a meal to thank you’” strategy ・The strategy of handing a flight attendant a business card with ¥10,000 inside