I’m a male member.

Regarding the biggest fear in a dating club: “I’m late…” As for me, I’m the condom-and-withdrawal type. In short, I have to suppress the feeling that the possibility is (almost) nonexistent and… There’s only one answer: “I’ll respect the woman’s wishes!” I tell her that and respond as courteously and sincerely as possible. But honestly, I can’t help feeling uneasy about women who act as though they’re the only victims and that the man alone is responsible. Part of me thinks, “The real victims are the children!” I’d genuinely be happy if it meant having another child, so I’d be fine with her giving birth. Given the way the body works, you can’t do what needs to be done without having at least some feelings, and of course I’m financially comfortable enough. (But what if the child isn’t mine…?) When I calm down and think about it, though, I find myself wondering: who is it that leaves contraception entirely to the man while being intimate with multiple partners in exchange for money? So here’s my question. I love the official, socially acceptable answer. But I love people’s true feelings even more. I’d appreciate your honest opinions and advice on how you would respond—or how you have responded—including your thoughts on the matter.