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Because they were talked into signing up by a scout or friend saying:
“Papa-katsu means you go out for tea, get paid, and they’ll even buy you all sorts of things!”
Haha.
↑ Bad answer. Haha.
I’m a male member of UC and the new salon.
I absolutely hate women who ask me to buy them things in addition to their allowance—so much that it actually disgusts me, haha.
If someone says, “Let’s go shopping,” I immediately tell her that I can’t do that. And I won’t see her again.
This actually happened once in the past. I went shopping with a woman and bought her clothes and other things. Until that day, we had exchanged emails and LINE messages almost every day, but from the very day I bought those things for her, she suddenly stopped contacting me altogether. I remember being incredibly angry.
Maybe I just didn’t really understand what a dating club was back then… haha.
It’s not that I’m traumatized by the experience, but I can’t help thinking, “How self-centered can you be?”—getting an allowance, being treated to dinner, and then expecting me to buy you something while shopping, too.
It’s not about whether I have the money. The moment I catch even a glimpse of that kind of ulterior motive, I instantly lose all desire to continue seeing her.
By the way, with the woman I’m currently seeing, I’m the one who suggests going shopping for her birthday, Christmas, or other special occasions, saying, “I’d like to give you a present, so let’s go shopping together.” Sometimes I also choose and buy something myself to give her as a gift.
We also sometimes go window-shopping at luxury jewelry stores—not because I’m expected to buy something, but so she can have the goal of saving part of her allowance and buying something someday.
Even if she says, “Please buy this for me♡,” I don’t find it cute at all.
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here, answering as well.
> Maybe it’s just a coincidence, but when I ask where they’d like to go on a date after we’ve met a few times, they frequently say they want to go shopping.
Why not try looking at it from the woman’s perspective?
When she’s asked where she’d like to go:
- A movie? …She might think you don’t seem like the type to watch movies.
- Dinner? …You take her out for meals every time, so maybe she should suggest something else.
- An amusement park? …She may assume you probably wouldn’t want to go, and suggesting somewhere that takes up a whole day might feel awkward.
Thinking along those lines, she may end up saying:
Shopping.
So, while I think it’s kind and considerate to ask where she’d like to go, if her answer only leaves you feeling disappointed, it might be better to plan the date yourself.
I’m a male member, Seattle.
I feel the same way as UST. Women who ask to go shopping probably aren’t looking for something long-term—they’re trying to get as much as they can in a short time. Unless the man has a black card, it might not last.
Usually, we have dinner, go to a hotel, and when I feel like it, I also go for a spa treatment. I decide for myself.
