Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
> I feel that, when you consider what might happen if he didn’t know, not knowing may actually be better for the man.
In the case of an affair, if the other party acted intentionally or negligently, they may be liable for compensation.
Conversely, if the woman says she is single and there are no indications anywhere that she is married, it is highly possible that the man would not be found negligent. That makes it more likely that he would not have to pay compensation.
So, if the man liked the woman, he would probably feel more comfortable seeing her if she told him she was single.
If there are men who would continue seeing a woman after she said, “I’m married,” I imagine they would either have so much money that paying the usual amount of compensation would barely affect their assets, or they would simply be overconfident and assume they would be fine.
It may be worth giving some thought to why Universe Club does not ask either women or men whether they are currently married. (They do ask about marital history, but only as “history.”)
Incidentally, I think saying, “She probably isn’t married,” could be considered negligence. So the approach most likely to avoid being deemed negligent would be to ask her clearly and have her state that she is not married.
Of course, even then, there is still a possibility that negligence could be found. Men should conduct their own due diligence and act accordingly.
I’m Rura, a UC male member and a member of the new salon.
Being involved with a married person is a pretty deep topic, isn’t it…
I personally avoid married people because the risks are high.
I imagine many men also want to avoid such situations, so if possible, I’d like to know that information from the outset.
Incidentally, regarding Nonta’s aside, there was a court precedent in 2014 concerning so-called “pillow business”:
The conclusion of the ruling was:
“Even if a club hostess or mama repeatedly and continuously has sexual relations with a customer, when it is recognized as ‘pillow business,’ she is merely responding professionally to the customer’s sexual desires, as in the case of a prostitute. Since this does not in any way harm the peace of the marital relationship, even if the wife suffers emotional distress after learning of it, it is appropriate to conclude that such conduct does not constitute a tortious act toward the wife.”
I don’t know whether this applies to dating clubs or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but I thought it might be useful as a reference.
I also know a woman who, when doing papa-katsu, deliberately didn’t tell the man her phone number, where she lived, or even her name, so that she wouldn’t be liable for compensation or other claims from his wife.
However, the man’s wife hired a private investigator, and in the end, they found out where she lived, the company she worked for, and her real name—everything.
(It seems she ultimately wasn’t sued, though…)
Being involved with a married person has its advantages, but I think it’s best to enjoy it while being fully aware of the risks.
I’m Saito, the column writer♪
I also find it easier to be considerate when people are open with me, so I think it’s better than keeping it hidden.
If they turned you down because you’re married, I don’t think it would have become a good relationship even if you had kept it secret. I think it’s for the best.
