It’s been a little over two months since I met a truly wonderful woman. We go on dates about twice a week, keep in touch with each other, and have so much in common in terms of our hobbies and preferences that we’ve been enjoying a relationship that feels closer than friendship. Her profession is in a field I’m personally very interested in, and she’s highly capable. She’s also beautiful and has a wonderful personality—the kind of person I feel I’d want to support for the rest of her life. I wouldn’t regret giving her over 200,000 yen a month at all.
She had only been registered with the club for a few months. Since she was a higher-level member, she received few offers and hadn’t had any good encounters. She also said the work schedule didn’t suit her, so she voluntarily left the club after meeting me.
I’m dating a woman who seems absolutely perfect for me, but lately I feel like I’m about to be crushed by the emotions swirling inside me.
・Every so often, a man she previously met through an offer contacts her, and I can’t help wondering whether she goes on dates with him… If she were struggling financially and meeting him even for 50,000 yen a time, I’d go crazy. I seriously want to see her LINE messages…
・Even though we’re so compatible, is the day we part ways inevitably going to come someday…?
・It’s hard to imagine her dressing up or putting on makeup for this, but what if she’s actually a professional and I’m just being played?
I’ve told her that if other men contact her, I’ll pay her the same amount so she can focus on her work. She’s also told me that she wants us to stay close forever, and that since our schedules don’t match and she hasn’t received any new offers, she isn’t doing anything like that with anyone else who contacts her.
In the end, I feel like I’m just worrying myself, but I’ve become consumed by this pointless suspicion and distrust, and I can’t shake this indescribable sense of impatience. I’ve been making offers to lots of other women, but that’s a separate matter and doesn’t calm me down at all.
So I’d be grateful if you could share any personal experiences or advice, such as “I went through something similar” or “I had a breakup like this…”
Maybe I’m beginning to see the darker depths of the dating club world.
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
About ten years ago, there was an extremely beautiful, promiscuous woman, and I found myself in a situation where I could hear her moans while she was having sex with one of my male friends.
I was very young at the time, and it caused me a great deal of pain. But ironically, that experience eventually taught me how to control my own emotions.
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I’m Joe, a columnist and male member.
Congratulations on meeting such a wonderful woman. I’m envious.
That said, you may be getting a little ahead of yourself. When that happens, take a deep breath first. I feel that things tend to work out better when you leave yourself a little breathing room—what do you think?
I completely understand why you want to look through her LINE messages. It’s only human. But there are two reasons you shouldn’t do it:
- It’s undignified.
- From a man’s perspective, there’s no happiness to be found in a woman’s LINE messages.
That said, if she agrees, I personally don’t see anything wrong with meeting twice a week. I also don’t think it would hurt to be a little more generous with her allowance.
Most important of all is being prepared for the day you part ways.
“Parting” sounds painful, but it’s more like graduation—she’ll leave your side having grown into an even better woman. Don’t forget that she’ll be leaving while feeling grateful to you. It’s bittersweet. But Joe believes that nothing captures the true appeal of an arrangement through a dating club more than that bittersweet feeling.
I hope your relationship continues for as long as possible, and that even as you struggle through it, you’re able to find value in the experience.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
I think it’s best to assume that every relationship, no matter how it begins, will eventually come to an end. Very few ever lead to marriage.
That said, if things ended as they are now, it would probably be emotionally difficult for you. So I think you should deliberately look for another woman you can date alongside your current partner.
There’s always a chance things could suddenly end next month.
Also, seeing multiple women at the same time may help you regain your composure.
Once you’re calm again, you may be better able to understand how your partner really feels. That way, you can avoid doing things she doesn’t like.
Please find one more good woman.
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
Meeting twice a week is quite a lot. Once a week is more typical.
You should wait to send another LINE message until after she replies. Wanting to check up on her like that is unhealthy.
If you get too emotionally invested, you’ll definitely come across as clingy and get dumped, so find a second partner quickly. Otherwise, throw yourself into your work.
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