Maezawa from the president’s office here.
> I’ve considered finding another man and dating him to take my mind off things. When I received offers, I tried going on dates with several male members, but I haven’t found anyone who compares.
You must be a woman who receives a lot of offers. That’s impressive.
Of course you can’t find a man who compares to the person you currently like. You already have feelings for him.
If that man turns you down, there’s a chance someone you don’t think much of right now may suddenly stand out to you.
So first, I recommend getting to know other men properly and going on dates with them—not just to take your mind off things, but to seriously consider whether you could see yourself dating them.
You may come across someone who makes you think, “Maybe this could work.”
As long as you have feelings for the person you like now, it’s hard to genuinely consider other men. But sometimes it’s best to accept that and simply see where things go.
I’m sure it will be painful if things end between you, and I imagine it’s already becoming difficult when you can’t see him.
Sometimes, no matter how hard you struggle, there’s nothing you can do.
Accepting it as one of those things and going on dates with as many different men as possible may be the best approach.
I’m Rula, a UC male member and a member of the new salon.
You found an amazing match, didn’t you?
It’s wonderful that you feel that strongly about him!
I don’t think you need to keep arranging meetings or forcing yourself to pursue marriage. Matches that make you feel this way are rare, so even if you meet new people one after another, you’ll probably just reconfirm that “there’s still no one better than him,” which may only make you feel lonelier.
Rather than trying to distract yourself that way, I think it would be better to take on new challenges that help you shine even more.
For example, you could take cooking classes and become a better cook, or try golf…
You could also watch movies or plays, travel alone, take English conversation lessons, or buy stylish clothes with your allowance…
→ Of course, the time you spend with him makes you happy, but I think it’s also important to enjoy the time you spend apart.
The key here is not to start something based on the hobbies or preferences of the man you’re currently seeing. You should challenge yourself with things that make you think, “This is fun” or “This is exciting.”
I’m sorry to put it so bluntly, but since he is married, the chances of this leading to something more are generally low. If the time comes when you have to part ways, and you find yourself thinking, “I learned this and did that just to make him like me…,” it will only leave you feeling empty.
If you can say, “I’m living a wonderful life even when we’re not together!” I believe your appeal will shine even more. And no matter how things ultimately turn out with him, you’ll be able to lead a richer life.
I hope you continue to enjoy each day with energy and positivity…
I’m a male member from Seattle.
As a male member, I make an effort to treat her well so she’ll feel that way, so I’m glad you asked.
That said, dating a married man would probably be difficult. You might be better off focusing on finding a wonderful boyfriend through marriage-oriented dating.
