I currently have multiple papas, but I’ve fallen for one of them. Part of me doesn’t want to receive an allowance, but I’m worried that if I say so, he’ll lose interest and I won’t be able to see him anymore.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here, and I’ll answer this as well. Since relationships involving an allowance are the norm, I think most men would feel a bit put off if a woman suddenly said, “You don’t need to give me an allowance anymore.” I believe that’s because they want to enjoy a relationship with a comfortable amount of distance. A relationship without an allowance becomes a serious romantic relationship, and the thought of having to deal with things like her crying when you want to end it, calling your company, or even becoming a stalker can feel frightening. That said, the tricky part is that you also don’t want a relationship without any genuine feelings. Many people want their feelings to become serious while still maintaining a clear boundary and not allowing the other person to intrude any further. So I don’t think it’s a good idea to say, “You won’t need to give me an allowance anymore.” There are also male members who are hoping for a relationship without an allowance. In those cases, the other person will usually bring it up in conversation, so you’ll know. If that happens, you could respond along the lines of, “About what we discussed before—that’s fine with me,” and proceed from there. I think things would likely work out well. You could also say, “Are you sure the allowance isn’t too much for you? It would be fine to lower it a little,” which might work as well.

I’m a lost man in my 60s. I’m married, but everything’s perfectly fine… lol. I’ve had this kind of relationship in the past and have also experienced ending things properly when the time came… In the end, if both people genuinely like each other, shouldn’t they be able to talk things through properly and come to an understanding? That said, I suppose it may be true that I don’t make offers to women I wouldn’t consider relationship material…

I’m a male member based in Seattle. This wasn’t a meeting through Universe, but someone I met on an old message board. At some point, the allowance stopped. We were both single. If you genuinely love each other and are confident you can be in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, I think that’s fine.

I’m Saito, a column writer♪ “If you don’t need an allowance…” If someone said that to me, I wouldn’t just back off—I’d end things. Use that allowance to work on yourself, so the man you like will find you even more wonderful.