I’m a Type D female member. The other day, I met a man who had offered to meet me, but after having tea for 30 minutes, he gave me only ¥5,000 for transportation and left, saying he had to get back to work. We discussed the terms of the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangement, the allowance amount, and exchanged LINE contacts, but honestly, I thought we would also have an adult relationship (intimate) that day. I’m feeling pretty down because he left—maybe I just wasn’t his type? (>_<) Was I simply not his type after all?

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ When I’m not comfortable, I give her transportation money and send her home early. If our expectations about the allowance don’t match, I figure that even if I negotiate it down and reluctantly move things forward, it won’t last.

Maezawa from the executive suite will answer this as well. > We discussed the terms of the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangement, agreed on the allowance, and even exchanged LINE contacts. It’s possible that the terms didn’t match what he was looking for. From the club’s perspective, it’s gentlemanly—and appreciated—when a man simply leaves if the terms don’t work for him. Why? Because some men will lecture the woman instead: “Explain why you deserve that allowance.” “What makes you worth that much?” “People don’t normally ask for an allowance that high.” Being lectured like that for 30 minutes can be very upsetting and difficult for the woman. So from the club’s point of view, he may seem like a good person, but from the woman’s perspective, it just leaves her wondering what happened. Of course, you won’t know the real reason unless you ask him directly. Since you have nothing to lose, why not ask him why?

I’m Seattle, a male member. Regardless of the type of arrangement, I find it hard to make an invitation on the very first day. I tend to think we should get to know each other better first. If there’s a next time, they may have simply been busy. Try asking once, and if you still can’t get in touch, let it go and move on.