I once received an offer in a 4-on-4 format (all the men knew each other, while the women were all strangers to one another).

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Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here. > 1. How should I have refused when they tried to take my picture…? You can simply say, “Sorry, I’d rather not have my picture taken ＞＜,” and avoid being in the shot or cover your face. If he still tries to take pictures after you’ve refused three times, I think it’s fine to contact the club and leave. However, they may not notice your LINE message right away, so please call the club instead. They’ll ask the man what happened and decide whether to have him stop taking pictures or have you leave. That said, if the club is already closed and you can’t reach them, clearly tell the man, “I’m uncomfortable having my picture taken. Would it be okay if I left today?” and then leave. There’s a chance he may realize how you feel and stop taking pictures. However, someone who behaves that way seems to lack consideration, so it’s probably safest to leave at that point. Since the man may file a complaint, I recommend recording the conversation or otherwise keeping some evidence of the exchange. I personally don’t really like 4-on-4 or 2-on-2 arrangements because they tend to cause a lot of trouble, but we do set them up as usual. That said, we explain the format when making the offer, so if you feel there may be problems, you’re free to decline. > 2. When it’s an offer involving multiple people, do you often receive feedback about unusual dates like this? Not often (partly because we don’t arrange this type of date very frequently), but I get the feeling that some kind of minor trouble tends to occur. For example, not receiving transportation expenses…

I’m a male member based in Seattle. Taking photos without your permission should warrant a serious warning—just one step short of being banned outright. You should definitely report whoever did it.