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Jul 20, 2019 21:03
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The other day, while I was discussing with a man I had just met for the first time how much he would pay when we met privately or if things developed into a relationship, he kissed me and touched my breasts. Since it was our first meeting and I wasn’t considering that kind of relationship yet, would telling him to stop make me guilty of Type fraud? (I couldn’t say anything that day and ended up just going along with it…)
Ideally, I’d rather not do anything like that until we’ve met a few times and I feel ready to have an intimate relationship with him.
However, he was pleasant to talk to over a meal, so even if I decided that having an intimate relationship with him would be difficult, I’d still like to continue seeing him for meals or dates if he’s okay with that.
In a case like this, would I be considered Type A?
Sorry for the long post…
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👨 Male
Universe staff
I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the president’s office.
With Relationship Type B, the first meeting ends after dinner only (no intimacy).
If you continue seeing each other after the second meeting—possibly the third or fourth—there may eventually be the possibility of an adult relationship (intimate).
So if he kisses you or touches your breasts on the first day even though you’re uncomfortable with it, make sure to clearly refuse. Even if you refuse, he has no grounds to accuse you of “relationship type fraud.”
If necessary, you can preserve evidence or find witnesses. In that case, it may be possible to file a criminal complaint for indecent assault.
> Even if I feel that having an intimate relationship with this person would be difficult, I’d still like to continue seeing him for meals or dates, as long as he’s okay with it.
In that case, the situation changes. The moment you say that, he’ll probably accuse you of being a woman committing “relationship type fraud.” There’s also a strong possibility that he’ll contact the club angrily.
If you feel that an intimate relationship would be difficult, I think it’s better to clearly tell him that you can’t continue the relationship. If he still says he’d like to see you even if it’s dinner only, then I don’t think you’ll be accused of fraud if you continue seeing him.
The outcome may be similar, but if the woman is the one who says she only wants a dinner-only relationship, he may ask why she didn’t choose Relationship Type A from the start. So I think you should be careful about that.
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👨 Male
Former Universe member
I’m a woman in my 60s and feeling lost.
A “type scam”? I don’t understand what that means.
If he made you an offer knowing you were a B type, but then behaved that way, he’s not someone you should trust.
There are plenty of men, myself included, who know how to behave like gentlemen.
You’d be better off ending things with him as soon as possible.
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m the male member, date◎yume.
I’ve had plenty of trouble with Type B women.
If, in your heart of hearts, you’re looking for a relationship that won’t develop into anything romantic from the outset, you should change your classification to Type A.
Judging only from what you wrote, when the two of you were in a private room discussing the future and he kissed you or touched your breasts, the male member may have jumped to the conclusion that things would progress into a relationship.
It would have been better to gently turn him down by saying something like, “We’ve only just met today, so I’d like to talk a little more first…” I don’t think he would have felt offended or accused you of misrepresenting your relationship type. Ideally, you probably should have said something just before he started touching you.
Since you said he was a nice person when you were simply talking over a meal, and that even if you felt it would be difficult to have an intimate relationship with him, you’d still like to continue having meals or going on dates if he was okay with that, I think it’s probably fine for you to remain Type B, especially considering that you were discussing the future of the relationship.
If the male member thinks, “She’s a nice person, but she’s not interested in that way,” he’ll probably stop inviting you out or suggest changing your relationship type.