When I first joined, I was thrilled and excited by the possibility of meeting so many women through the members-only site, and I look back nostalgically on how eagerly I used to make offers. But lately, I’ve been feeling that there are fewer women I actually want to make an offer to, and I’m wondering if I’m just going through a slump. I’d appreciate some advice.
My preferred type is:
Age: 24–29 (up to 32)
Fair-skinned, slim, and attractive—in other words, a classic beauty
Has a regular income from a job or similar, and a healthy sense of money
Relationship type: C or B
Location: Kansai, if possible
Allowance: up to around twice the going rate
Someone who can meet about four times a month (at least twice)
Class: Platinum (some Black)
As for Secret members, the lateness rate was far too high, and they seemed to live in a completely different world. It just wasn’t realistic for an ordinary person like me.
As for my own profile, I’m completely average.
I’m in my 40s, a business owner, and have a fair amount of free time and disposable income. (If I spend one million yen in a single night, I end up regretting it afterward, thinking, “Ah, I really overdid it. What was I thinking?”)
At first, I worked toward moving things forward after dinner, but I’ve gotten tired of that goal.
I genuinely want an ongoing relationship.
I can’t handle seeing multiple people at the same time, so if we’re going to be together, I would expect the other person to accept some degree of exclusivity as well.
Ideally, after meeting around six to eight times and giving her about one million yen in cash, including transportation expenses, I’d like things to develop into something more. But if she remains registered with the club, or if I simply can’t understand her way of thinking, I quietly decide to let her go.
Then, when I think about looking for the next woman, my standards become even higher.
I’ve experienced this twice now.
I’m also starting to wonder whether relationship clubs simply aren’t suited to me.
I’m not even sure anymore what exactly I’m asking for advice about. Feel free to share your thoughts—even if you think I’m looking for the wrong things from a relationship club or that my expectations are too demanding!
Maezawa here.
> As for the allowance, up to about twice the usual market rate…
Does that mean that, on the Black tier, paying up to ¥800,000 per month for four meetings a month would be acceptable? (Excluding meals and transportation.)
> I wish various things would change, but if she remains registered with the club, I simply can’t understand it and quietly decide to let her go.
In that case, you could say:
“I want to date only you, so I’d like to arrange a contract for ¥800,000 per month. I’d like you not to date any other men at all.”
Normally, she would probably put her Universe membership on hold herself and stop seeing other men.
(Encouraging her to withdraw or take a leave of absence is against the rules.)
> A fair-skinned, slim, conventionally beautiful woman with a great figure
This may be the key issue.
Women like that are likely to receive a flood of offers, so for her to choose just one man, that man would probably need to bring something truly exceptional to the table.
So, in order to make the “I want you to date only me” arrangement work, you may need to significantly increase your own appeal—or raise your budget considerably.
Of course, if that’s possible, it’s one option.
However, if you compromise slightly within your acceptable range on that point, you may be able to find women who have received only one offer. With someone like that, the terms of ¥800,000 per month in exchange for dating only you are more likely to work.
I can’t tell you the number of offers they’ve received, but if you explain your terms to the branch staff and have them select candidates, I think you should be able to date someone who fits what you’re looking for.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> I’d like some advice.
This may not exactly be advice, but I hope you’ll read it simply as knowing that there are other members who think along similar lines.
> I genuinely want an ongoing relationship.
I feel much the same way as you do.
The differences are that my financial capacity is about one-tenth of yours, and I don’t place restrictions on the women’s other relationships—I leave that entirely to their free will.
Now, here’s where the problem lies.
I may be mistaken, but I used to think that because you’re providing financial support several times greater than their salaries, you’re essentially saying, “I want you to really focus on me.”
The club’s position is that they simply introduce you to the people you’re interested in, and everything after that should be discussed between the parties involved.
But perhaps what this means is that unless the person receiving financial support genuinely engages with the person providing it, then “there’s no point in providing that support.”
That’s how I see it.
Thinking about it carefully, the women weren’t receiving any financial support before, so wouldn’t support equivalent to their salary, on top of what they already earn, be enough?
That’s what I think, but I suppose it’s human nature. More is better than less, and if it’s available, there’s no reason not to have it（笑）
And that’s how mismatches occur.
“It’s certainly a difficult issue.”
It does sound like a challenging kind of relationship, but I’m sure there are women who are looking for exactly that sort of arrangement.
Perhaps you could reconsider factors such as age and appearance, then discuss your preferences with the club.
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