I’d love to hear your thoughts on birthday gifts from a monthly arrangement partner.
・Something you actually enjoyed receiving
・Something you’d be happy to receive or have done for you
Either is fine—I’d really appreciate your input!
He’s my papa of almost two years, and we’re relatively more like a couple.
Last year, I gave him consumable goods worth around ¥10,000.
This year, I’m thinking of treating him to a meal at a hard-to-book restaurant.
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For our one-year anniversary, my monthly arrangement partner gave me a “I’ll Do Anything for You” voucher—good for up to three requests over the next year—and I was absolutely thrilled!
It’s such a wonderful gift because it doesn’t involve spending any of my papa’s money; it’s all about doing something the other person wants.
Now I just have to decide what to ask for… My imagination is running wild, and I can’t stop grinning（笑）
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A dinner gift would be perfectly fine.
I’ve already bought everything I want, so I don’t need any material gifts.
Other than a dinner gift, I think a naughty, hands-on kind of gift would be fine too.
By the way, it’s my birthday today—I turned 55, well into my late fifties. I have no plans. I’ve been watching Love Village on Netflix all day. Maybe I’m getting older, because I’ve started to enjoy relaxing holidays alone and no longer find them unpleasant.
I was 47 when I joined Universe Club.
I’ve deleted my birthday from LINE just for October because I’d find it a hassle if I got any “resurrection texts.” Total shut-in mode.
P.S. Thank you. Maybe I’ll go out for solo yakiniku to celebrate—with a shareholder perk, though.
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I don’t really want people to celebrate my birthday. At my age, it just sounds like a sarcastic reminder that I’m another year closer to the end.
I’d be happier if they celebrated the first and second anniversaries of our first meeting instead. One girl used to celebrate by lighting one candle on a small cake for our first anniversary, and two candles for our second. Unfortunately, we parted ways just before our third anniversary.
Seattle, happy birthday!
I’m not happy about my own birthday, but I can genuinely celebrate other people’s birthdays. Funny, isn’t it? lol
Reading Kazu’s reply got me thinking: in relationships, what the other person wants is usually something you don’t want to give or do yourself. I think that’s true for both men and women.
That’s what makes it different from birthday presents between female friends. For example, an expensive gift was ultimately bought with the allowance the man gave her, so as a papa (a male supporter), it leaves me with mixed feelings. I’d be fine with treating her if she paid for it with money she earned from a part-time job, though.
Many people answering this say that what makes them happiest is going on a date without an allowance, but from the girl’s perspective, that’s probably the thing she’d least want—or feel least inclined—to do.
What makes me happiest is when she says something like, “Thank you for always helping me. I have to use the money for things I need, so I can’t give you anything expensive, but this is the least I can do,” and then gives me something thoughtful—like the first- and second-anniversary cakes I mentioned above.
It makes me feel that she’s using the allowance I gave her carefully and valuing it.
I mentioned this before, but one girl once sang and gave me Teresa Teng’s “Toki no Nagare ni Mi o Makase” as a present. That was lovely too. The lyrics are beautiful:
If I had never met you,
I wonder what I would have done.
Would I have loved someone
And lived an ordinary life?
I’ll let myself drift with the flow of time,
And be colored by you.
Even if it meant giving up
This one life I have,
I wouldn’t mind.
So please, keep me by your side.
For now, you’re the only one I can love.
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Men often have more financial resources than the person asking, so they may already have bought whatever they want.
Because of that, they may appreciate the thought more than any particular gift. Why not ask him directly what he’d like?
Some men may find it suspicious if a woman says she doesn’t want an allowance and decide not to see her again. But you could suggest making an exception because it’s his birthday. Some men might also appreciate trying something just for that day that you’ve previously said you weren’t comfortable with.
Alternatively, you could tell him your budget and ask what he’d like.
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What a good girl—you’re going to make me fall for you!
Memories over material things.
Some things money can’t buy.
A restaurant sounds really nice.
Fuu arranged everything, but an overnight stay with dinner at a restaurant followed by a hotel with a night view was amazing. Just remembering it gets me excited.
In a room with a view bath—
There was a bathtub in the room, right by the window. We floated flowers in the bath while drinking and enjoying the night view, then had some fun with the city lights in the background（笑）. It was great.
Things got heated, and with no limit on finishing, I managed seven times over one night and two days. A personal record at my age! Even beat my college-days record lol
I’m currently looking for a monthly arrangement who’s okay with overnight stays. Since Fuu’s birthday is coming up soon, I’m waiting for an offer from a naughty girl who’d be happy—even excited—to let a well-endowed guy have his way seven times in a room with a view bath（笑）
P.S. Masato from Fukuoka: That sounds amazing! So good (≧∇≦)b! Next time, I might ask my monthly-arrangement group for a “coupon for anything you want” for Fuu’s upcoming birthday.
Hmmmm, what should I ask for? Maybe a clean-up blowjob?
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Everyone has different preferences, so what makes one person happy may not necessarily make someone else happy.
For example, I wouldn’t be particularly happy if someone treated me to a meal at a restaurant that’s notoriously difficult to book. If they wanted to do something for me, I’d honestly be happier if they simply secured the reservation.
What actually made me happy was that, on that occasion, I didn’t receive an allowance.
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I’ve only split the bill with girls back in high school; ever since then, I’ve always been the one paying. So I’d probably feel guilty being treated.
I think it’s considerate to leave me some role to play.
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My regular, more girlfriend-like supporter (my ace) gives me briefs every year. I wear the briefs he’s given me on our dates, even when we’re just having dinner. It makes me happy, and it’s fun.
Are you and your boyfriend P on a monthly arrangement or pay-per-meeting? If it’s pay-per-meeting, I think the best birthday present would be being intimate without receiving an allowance.
Since my more girlfriend-like PJ arrangements always become monthly arrangements, I have them choose a present with strict instructions that it must be under ¥10,000—and somehow, it ends up being briefs every year.
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Even the thought is appreciated.
But since this is more like a romantic relationship, the perspective of someone who’s gone down the harsh, cutthroat path of serious papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) may not be very helpful.
If he has a wife at home, anything that leaves a scent or would be difficult to take home wouldn’t be a good choice.
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Without overthinking it, just be yourself.
Honestly, I think the best response is something like, “Oh, I completely forgot.”
Or, even if you do remember, let her birthday pass and then say when you see her, “Oh, I’m sorry—I completely forgot.”
You really don’t need to calculate or overanalyze it to the point of asking about it here. If you’re treating her more like a girlfriend, though…
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