A question for the women here:

Sorry, but I’m answering as a guy, lol. You’re still so young, 20-year-old. You remind me of what I was like in my twenties. Fuu was just like that too. There are plenty of guys who are into NTR or BDSM, and that doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t satisfied with normal sex with their girlfriends. Also, women have sex drives too and can be pretty horny, so you should probably stop assuming that women are all pure and demure. Once you’ve had more experience and started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you’ll understand how imaginative and erotic women can be, lol. Work hard and come join us on this side soon! We’ll be waiting for you ^_^ If your girlfriend actually wants to be dominated and that’s her kink, try feeling her out and asking questions. If you can fulfill that desire for her, you might become a man she can’t leave. If you don’t, there’s always a chance she’ll be taken by another guy who can. One of Fuu’s regulars is a 26-year-old who returned to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). She first became a regular at 20, then broke up with her boyfriend after moving in with him, and is now back to papa-katsu. She wants to be choked, but finds it difficult to say, “Choke me.” Even when she does say it, the guy apparently does it too gently. The other day, after she taught me how, I choked her, and she tightened up down there and came. Apparently, using more force than I expected made her vision go white and heightened her sensitivity. Of course, she did it at her own risk. Her boyfriend was very vanilla and would only have sex once. When she asked for a second time, he was put off and they broke up. Fuu does it twice every time by default, so apparently she’s satisfied. Women aren’t goddesses or naturally demure. Plenty of girls look innocent but are actually very erotic. Let’s aim to become the man who can fulfill her kinks and desires—the kind she can’t leave! Together, lol.

Just because someone watches a certain genre of porn doesn’t necessarily mean they have that particular fetish. That’s pretty obvious. Since they’re watching it, they’re probably interested in it for some reason, but that doesn’t mean they actually want to try it themselves. I also don’t think there’s much of a connection between whether someone is satisfied with sex with men and whether they watch porn. The same goes for men—their satisfaction with their actual sex life doesn’t seem to correlate all that much with watching porn. That said, it’s pretty common for people who seem serious and reserved to actually have strong sexual desires beneath the surface.

Women masturbate too, just like men do. What do you think would show up in the questioner’s search history? Men and women really aren’t that different. There are probably kinks they’d rather keep hidden from their boyfriend or girlfriend. Just as masturbation and sex with a partner are separate things for the questioner, they’re separate things for her too. Just because someone gets off to rape-themed material doesn’t necessarily mean they want to be raped. Haven’t you ever used that kind of material yourself? Also, it’s rude to sneak a peek at someone else’s search history, so stop doing that. Even if you happen to see it by accident, the polite thing is to pretend you didn’t and forget about it. You sound like one of those girls who sees her boyfriend masturbating and worries, “Does he not find me satisfying?” 😆

I don’t think it’s fair to lump all women together. Just because that happened to appear in your girlfriend’s search history doesn’t mean you should assume other women are the same. For example, people who have been raped often say they absolutely don’t want to watch rape-themed content. They can’t understand what men find interesting about it. Bondage may give them a similar negative impression, which is why they may dislike it. It seems possible that your girlfriend simply happened to be interested in that kind of thing. Or perhaps she searched for it, watched it, and ultimately decided she didn’t see the appeal after all. If this is making you anxious, maybe it’s because you’ve been slacking off in the relationship or have something specific weighing on your mind. I think you’d be better off working on that instead.

I think it’s best not to assume you can infer someone’s underlying psychology from a single action. People aren’t that simple.

There are women who occasionally have fantasies like that, and I’ve met some through Universe Club as well. That said, it’s only on the premise that they’re safe. They may want to be raped as long as their safety is guaranteed—but since there’s no such thing as safe rape, perhaps they settle for watching AV instead. Isn’t a desire for bondage fairly common? I get the impression that around 30% of women have that fantasy. I’ve also met women with NTR fantasies, and there’s even a respondent known as “Joe the Cuckold.”

I don’t think women necessarily look at or take an interest in this kind of content simply because they’re women. I’ve also come across related videos or ads while searching for something else and ended up watching out of curiosity, thinking, “I didn’t know this existed.” Men and women probably aren’t all that different in that regard. Of course, there are certainly people who genuinely have those desires, but it’s difficult to judge someone based on that alone. Rather than making yourself anxious by looking through her search history, it might be better for both of you to communicate regularly and ask things like, “Is there anything you’d like me to do?” or “Are you unhappy with anything in our relationship?” I hope you and your girlfriend continue to get along well.