I made an offer to a woman, but she turned it down because she felt we probably wouldn’t click—even though we hadn’t even met yet.
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When I had my registration interview, I asked the staff member whether I should upload a profile photo, and they told me that offers are generally not turned down. So this came as quite a shock.
I’ve listed my hobbies and other details briefly in my profile. Would it be better to write them out more thoroughly?
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Even popular women sometimes turn down a proposed date.
I’ve had several cases where, when the club asked why, the woman said something like, “I looked at his profile and didn’t think we’d click.” It happened once again recently.
Since she was someone I really wanted to meet, I revised my profile and made another offer—and fortunately, the setting was approved.
As it turned out, we didn’t click, and after going on several dinner dates, I was the one who declined to continue seeing her.
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I’d like to get my testosterone levels tested. I’ll look into it on Google.
I don’t think I can compete with Mac, but I do feel like my testosterone probably isn’t low.
More than two rounds every day is inhuman. Even across all of Japan, there probably aren’t five people who can do that.
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There’s a big difference between not being rejected very often and never being rejected at all.
The reasons someone may turn you down vary—your profile photo, age, income, occupation, and so on. I think one of the good things about this, unlike the sex industry, is that men can choose, and women can also say no.
That said, being rejected before paying the setting fee seems less damaging than being rejected after paying it.
You mentioned your hobbies, but women may also assume your allowance will be low based on your income and occupation. If you wrote something like, “I guarantee an allowance of 100,000 yen or more per pay-per-meeting arrangement,” you might not get rejected as often.
Still, there’s no need to overdo it. I think it’s better to look for women who would be happy to meet you as you are.
> I suspect she wasn’t actually a virgin, but a virgin scammer, and was afraid I’d see through her.
That’s certainly possible. But she may also have wanted to sell her virginity at a premium, and either didn’t know that Mac-san offers a virginity bonus or assumed it wouldn’t work because you pay the same amount to everyone.
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I’ve only ever made one offer and been turned down once.
My profile only says “Mac,” but she was supposedly a virgin, and the email from the branch representative said, “If this is the Mac who writes those columns, she’d rather pass.”
My guess is that she wasn’t actually a virgin, but a virgin scammer, and was afraid I’d see through her.
My next column is titled “The Science of Delayed Ejaculation.” I’ve put together some serious, specific ways to deal with it. As part of my research, I had my blood testosterone level (the male hormone) tested, and it came back at 605 ng/dL. Testosterone declines with age, but apparently mine is about average for a 35-year-old man. No wonder I’m still going strong.
Loser-san, you should get yours tested too. A guy who only dates B1 women probably has levels closer to those of a 60-year-old.
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I understand how you feel, but women do turn down offers, and sometimes they even ghost you on the day of the meeting. Check out Fuu’s early columns, haha.
Since she contacted you in advance instead of ghosting you on the day, let’s look at it positively.
Fuu has been ghosted on the day before too—once, I ended up eating a two-person serving of sushi alone in a private room. It was pretty lonely, haha.
At the end of the day, this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so from the woman’s perspective, there are times when she just isn’t feeling it. I mean, a woman in her 20s is having sex with someone more than twice her age.
When I imagine doing the reverse, I honestly think, “That’s amazing!” I really respect them.
Unlike working in the sex industry, they can choose their partner and turn someone down, while still receiving an allowance. That’s why papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) has become so popular, and why I’m grateful that so many young, beautiful women register with Universe.
For Fuu, finding a woman you genuinely want to see regularly—a “monthly arrangement” in papa-katsu terms—usually takes making offers to dozens of women before finding just one or two.
So in your case, it’s good that you found out early this time and didn’t waste any more money, haha. Let’s accept it and move on to the next offer ^_^
That said, to enjoy this activity, you may need to become a papa (a male supporter) whom women want to choose. Popular women get flooded with offers, after all.
From a woman’s perspective, you need to be someone she feels is worth being intimate with at a minimum, in addition to the Eiichi power (money). Avoiding deductions comes down to things like cleanliness, smell, body shape, handling yourself smoothly, and not being pushy.
Let’s do our best together!
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Getting your offer turned down happens all the time—it’s no big deal.
I’m not sure whether people in my area simply avoid giving the real reason, but there are plenty of cases where an offer doesn’t go through, including because of scheduling.
As others have said, try to look at it positively: you avoided wasting time and money, so just move on to the next one.
There’s no need to feel discouraged.
Hope this helps.
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I don’t have a photo on my profile, and my self-introduction is only a few lines long.
Sometimes my offers get turned down, but I don’t know the real reason, so I try not to worry about it.
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I’ve heard a few male members say that their offers were turned down, so I think it happens from time to time.
Apparently, it’s not always about chemistry—sometimes women decline because their workplace or industry is too close to their own.
If things don’t seem like a good fit, wouldn’t it be better for them to turn you down before meeting? That way, neither side wastes time or money.
That’s why I make a point of keeping my profile fairly detailed and up to date.
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Just as the person asking the question wouldn’t make an offer to a woman whose profile made them feel they weren’t a good match, it’s only natural that women may feel the same way.
Rather than paying the setup fee, meeting her, and then being told that she doesn’t feel a connection, why not consider yourself to have saved both time and money and move on to the next one?
One of the defining features of a dating club is that women have the right to decline offers. That’s also what makes it possible for high-quality women to join, so I think it’s important to understand that aspect.
Also, I feel the staff member may have given you a slightly misleading impression by saying that offers basically never get turned down.
There are plenty of reasons why a woman might decline an offer: she may simply be too busy with work to fit it into her schedule, or she may already have several reasonably good papas (male supporters) and not want any new ones for a while.
Ideally, I wish the staff member had used a little more discretion and gently explained that she wasn’t currently able to make time, allowing the offer to end without going through.
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