Nice to meet you! I’m a female member.

I always enjoy reading this anonymous Q&A box. I wanted to talk about the allowance issue that so often sparks debate here. I’ve only just turned 20, but I have a fair amount of experience with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Since money is being exchanged directly, figuring out how a woman should behave in order to preserve a comfortable relationship has always been an extremely delicate issue that troubles me. However, I think I’ve come up with my own answer recently, so I’d love to hear everyone’s opinions! To put it simply, I never bring up money myself on the first date. If the man brings up the allowance, I just smile and say, “I’ll leave it up to you. I’d be happy to receive whatever you feel comfortable giving me.” If I’m not satisfied with the amount, I hint over LINE that there probably won’t be a next time, then wait for him to panic and realize, “Was the allowance not enough!?” At that point, I gently explain that I’m a student with a busy schedule and that I have no choice but to prioritize the men who can offer a higher amount. If things end there, then sadly, we simply weren’t meant to meet. With anyone who offers to increase the allowance, we discuss the terms of the arrangement over LINE, but during the actual date, I absolutely never bring up money myself. At the time of the initial offer, the man is the one choosing, but I believe the best arrangement for both sides is ultimately to make him fall for you and reverse the dynamic so that the woman takes the lead. Of course, this only works if the woman thoroughly works on both her appearance and her inner qualities, and knows how to create a beautiful, enchanting time together. Once, on a first date, a man said he would give me 4 before we went to a hotel. I had always received at least 5, so honestly, I was disappointed, but I gratefully accepted it and gave him my all. However, after the exchange described above, he started giving me 6 from the second date onward, along with lots of expensive gifts. I can only say that it made me feel truly appreciated as a woman. I don’t set my sights too high, and my personal baseline is 5, but there are also men who give me 10 at a time. As a result, I’ve been seeing around six men, each for more than a year. After reading various posts, I got the impression that female members are lacking the resolve and determination to captivate men so completely that simply turning away for a moment makes them raise the allowance on their own. The whole men-versus-women dynamic is just too sad. I’m completely in a transactional relationship, so I don’t really think of these as dates, but I always try to treat the men with genuine consideration—for example, bringing a small gift or making notes about our conversations. Sorry for the long post. I’m sure someone will point out, “That’s not even a question!” but what do you all think? To all the men out there, do you dislike women who seem this professional? LOL