Is it normal for almost every day to be filled with dates?

“Normal” varies from person to person, so while you can put the average into numbers, you can’t really quantify what’s “normal,” since it’s a matter of perception. Most people think they’re normal anyway, even when they’re far from average, lol. As Maezawa-san says, if you do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for 20 days, you could make around ¥1 million a month—or ¥12 million a year. If you’re worried about the future, you should think about saving, investing to grow your money, starting a business, or otherwise creating some stability. If you’re anxious about the future yet earn that much for several years without doing anything with it, that’s honestly more surprising. You can’t rely solely on papa-katsu, and it’s only natural for the income to decrease as you get older, lol.

If you don’t feel that this is out of the ordinary, you could say that your sense of normalcy has become numb. That said, there’s no need to live a “normal” life, and people who accomplish something probably don’t worry about whether they’re normal or not. P.S. I think the people answering here—including me—are a group of people who aren’t exactly normal.

I once met a woman who had received a reverse offer from me after consistently earning ¥4 million a month. She said something along the lines of, “Generous (well-paying) papas are great, but they tend to cut things off quickly, so the key is to have a large number of moderately generous papas.” I think you’re a special person, just like the woman above. I imagine you’ve developed your own approach over time. Ignore everyone else’s opinions completely, have confidence, and keep moving forward. You may be far away, but if you’re interested, I’d be happy to receive a reverse offer from you. Even a letter date would be fine—I’d love to exchange information.

The fact that so many men want to keep seeing you means you must have that much appeal. Ideally, among them, you could nurture the men who have especially strong feelings for you and enough financial flexibility into, if not generous (well-paying) papas, at least moderately generous ones. Having about three such papas and rotating between them, while also meeting any new papas who make offers in case one arrangement ends, probably gives you the greatest sense of security. If you have too many men, it becomes difficult to keep track of the finer details, and the relationships naturally have to become more superficial. As a result, they’ll likely remain low-paying. If you age gracefully, you’ll develop different kinds of appeal in your 20s, 30s, and 40s. For the men who continue seeing you, that may even become an additional reason for them to become more invested in you. It might affect the number of offers you receive from new papas, though. Ideally, you would save your allowances from your papas, put some of it into stable investments, and steadily build up your savings. At the same time, you could pursue marriage through routes other than papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), meet several men who earn good money, and then marry the most dependable one around your mid-30s. Since you’d have a reasonable amount of savings, you could take your time choosing a partner. After dating various men, earning money properly, and learning to recognize the traits of men who know how to spend their money wisely, you probably wouldn’t make too many mistakes when choosing a husband. In my case, when a long-term arrangement ended, it was almost always because the other person got married. In some cases, I even know what kind of men they were and how they’re doing after marriage, and overall, they all seem to be doing well. I think having a certain amount of savings and the reassurance that you can leave if necessary makes a big difference.

> Do amazing women really never run out of dates with men, no matter how old they get? If they build a close relationship, it can continue for years. So if she’s truly exceptional, she may have several such partners. That said, if she’s dating almost every day, that would mean more than 20 dates a month. Even averaging ¥50,000 per person, she’d be making over ¥1 million a month. In that case, it might be worth thinking about how to use that income so she can support herself even if the dates with men eventually come to an end.

You must be friendly and fun to be around—that’s the most important trick. Cut ties with the rudest, cheapest papa (male supporter), and make some time for yourself once in a while. Your time is more valuable than money. I just went out alone for a 901-yen Juju Karubi beef bowl, and it was delicious. I’m happy. This afternoon, I’m going to read some manga and then nap for the rest of the day. Freedom is the best. I did too much papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) in my 40s, so lately I’ve come full circle and really enjoy just lounging around by myself.

It won’t last forever. → That’s a very level-headed way to look at it. Exactly. I’ve never heard of anyone nearing 60 still being financially supported, so I can’t say for sure, but it’s not impossible. Since you seem to be in your 20s, I think you still have plenty of time ahead of you. It’s impossible to say at what age it ends, but of course, wonderful people can maintain these relationships for a long time. So keep a level head and do your best. Hope this helps.