I recently started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and found someone for a monthly arrangement, but I ended up getting pharyngeal chlamydia. I hadn’t been intimate with anyone for several months, so I’m pretty sure I got it from him. We had agreed to see only each other, but should I look for someone else?

I know a girl whose throat chlamydia hadn’t cleared up even after several years, let alone a few months. So it may not have come from her papa—in fact, there’s a possibility she passed it on to him. That’s assuming her story was true, of course. I met her at Universal Studios. She was a virgin—she bled the first time, and I also visually confirmed her hymen, so she wasn’t lying. However, when she was in high school, she became close with an older man and apparently went as far as giving him oral. Several years later, she and I met. She hadn’t had any contact with men during that time. I was concerned, so I took a throat swab test, and was shocked when it came back positive for chlamydia. If an STI is left untreated, it won’t usually clear up on its own, and it’s often asymptomatic. What you should do is inform every man you’re currently or were previously involved with—including anyone you gave oral to—and have them get tested. Men can test for chlamydia with a urine sample, so an online clinic such as Mariko Clinic should be fine. If you don’t want to contact everyone from your past, at least tell the men you’re currently seeing. Once you’ve completed treatment and tested negative, it’s fine to resume dating normally. I also resumed seeing a girl who had throat chlamydia after she completed treatment. Going forward, if you absolutely want to avoid getting infected, you can avoid oral and kissing and always use condoms for vaginal sex. But yes, that would probably reduce the number of papas you can see. Throat tests for chlamydia and gonorrhea are available online for around 3,000 yen, so checking yourself about once a month might be a good idea. In my case, there are attractive women I continue seeing without oral or kissing, so some men may be fine with those terms.

If your papa (a male supporter) said he wants an exclusive one-on-one relationship, you should tell him that you’ve tested positive for throat chlamydia. He won’t cut ties with you over that. However, if you can’t rule out the possibility that you already had throat chlamydia before, you should be careful about how you bring it up. I get tested regularly, but I show my results to some partners and not others. I don’t show my test results to papa-katsu girls who lie about being exclusive with me, but I do show them to the other women I see. I’m worried that showing the results to someone who claims we’re exclusive when we’re not could lead to an awkward situation, like, “Are you saying you don’t trust me?”

According to Google: Around 80–90% of cases of throat chlamydia have no symptoms, and many people only experience cold-like symptoms such as a strange feeling in the throat or mild soreness. It can be contracted through oral sex and, without the person realizing it, cause symptoms or be passed on weeks to years later. It doesn’t clear up on its own, so STI testing and antibiotic treatment are necessary. The source might even be your previous boyfriend, lol. Women in particular often have no symptoms while the infection remains dormant. Apparently, it can become active when your physical condition or immune system is weakened. It can even remain dormant for several years. Once you’re sexually active, it’s a matter of luck, so you can’t prevent it 100%. Chlamydia and gonorrhea can be cured with medication, and the earlier they’re detected, the easier they are to treat. Fuu has a hospital lined up where they’ll test you and prescribe medication immediately. The doctor is someone I know. You could either accept that risk and continue with a transactional relationship, or stop having sex if you really don’t want to catch anything. I think it would be good to put your preferences in your profile, although you may receive fewer offers. You could write something like: “I’m fine with having the allowance reduced by the cost of your testing.” But even if a papa shows you test results from a week ago, you could still have caught something from sex three days ago, so it’s difficult. If you absolutely don’t want to catch anything, I suppose you could get married and make sure your husband doesn’t sleep with anyone but you—especially since infection rates are unavoidably higher among people who work in the adult entertainment industry, so you’d have to make sure he never visits those places. What a boring life, though. Fuu probably couldn’t do that, lol.

> “Do you think I should find someone else?” This is actually pretty straightforward: if the trust between you has broken down, I think it’s better to end things. The important point is that you’re already blaming him for what happened. Once you start feeling that way, you may end up wondering whether it’s his fault every time something happens in the future. That’s why I think you’re better off ending the relationship. However, if asking here has made you think it might have been a previous partner, then you could also say that there was no real trust to begin with. In that case, it may be worth waiting a little longer and seeing how things develop. > “How do you think I should tell him?” Why not just tell him directly? Something like: “I’ve tested positive for throat chlamydia. We hadn’t been intimate for several months, so I think it may have been from you. Could you please get tested, just to be safe?” > “I feel like I want to see the test results of anyone I’m involved with from now on. If I do that, will no one want to be my papa (a male supporter)…?” Some people may not want to become your papa, but I think others may actually feel more reassured by a woman who takes that approach. That said, it seems fairer to show them your own test results first and then suggest getting tested together as well—since test results become outdated over time. Just be careful how you phrase it, or they may take it as, “Are you saying you don’t trust me?”