“I’ve had a vasectomy!!”

I’m more afraid of STIs than pregnancy, so please say no. I’ve had around 20 cases, just through Universe Club, where the woman herself said, “I prefer it without a condom.” So it’s not only an issue on the papa side. There are a certain number of women who want to do it without protection, and there are papas who have done so with them. Maybe that’s why some papas mistakenly believe that “girls want it raw.” Three of my monthly arrangement partners want to do it without a condom. They all say they’re taking the pill, but a tiny part of me wonders whether they’re trying to get pregnant. I’m afraid of both pregnancy and STIs, so I want to use condoms. But when a woman says, “I prefer it without one,” embarrassingly enough, I’m not entirely opposed to it. So I end up accepting—and then taking Vibramycin from the next day onward. The girl who’s my unprotected-sex partner tonight is coming over. It’s not that it feels better without a condom. What makes us old guys happy is that she’s willing to accept us without one. There’s not much difference in pleasure between using a condom and not using one. ■Update 1 After going around in circles thinking, “There are STIs you can catch even with a condom, and you can get infected through oral sex or cunnilingus too,” I started taking Vibramycin or something similar from the day after having sex with a woman for the first time, so I wouldn’t pass anything on to someone else. Even when I have protected sex, I take the medication as a precaution after being with a new woman. I get tested for STIs quite often. I’m well aware there are plenty of things you could point out, like, “What about genital warts?” Since some STIs have an incubation period of a month, there’s no way to take perfect precautions. So rather than whether this is a rational strategy, in the context of playing this long-term, I’ve come to feel that “this is probably the best I can do for now.” As for HPV, even though there are vaccines covering up to 20 types, the nine-valent vaccine only protects against nine. I also have a monthly arrangement partner right in front of me who developed cervical cancer despite having received the HPV vaccine, so I don’t believe vaccines are万能 either. There’s no way you’re going to have sex without kissing, oral sex, or cunnilingus. Since there are STIs you can catch even if you avoid kissing, oral sex, and cunnilingus while using a condom, you have to draw the line somewhere. In my case, that line has become: “Take STI medication after being with a new woman.” Incidentally, my best friend is a huge fan of sex work and says he only goes to places where unprotected services are offered. He’s also never caught an STI—not even once, though he gets tested occasionally. What kind of immune system does he have? ■Update 2 >Calling it a transactional relationship makes things easier, but it also feels a little lonely sometimes. Still, there’s a firm part of me that refuses to change my stance and says, “No, this is fine.” I never planned to live this kind of life, but I guess all I can do is let myself drift wherever the current takes me. I’ll enjoy today, too. Please write a column centered on this theme. I’m running into this wall myself. I don’t have romantic feelings, so for me, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is more like supporting my favorite idols. But maybe, deep down, I actually do want to experience being genuinely in love. I honestly don’t know myself.

I’m too nervous to say whether you can trust him or not—I can’t take responsibility for that, lol. It does sound somewhat plausible, though. I’ve heard that there are various types of vasectomy procedures, and that some don’t offer a 100% guarantee of contraception (I don’t know for sure—just something I’ve heard). If it were me, I’d look into it carefully and ask something like, “I’m sorry to ask such a personal question, but what kind of procedure did you have, and where was it performed?” It’s an important matter, after all.

Before we even get to whether you can trust him, he definitely has an STD, so he’s out. > You’ll have to take Vibramycin starting the next day. I’ve said this many times before, but Vibramycin is used for chlamydia and gonorrhea. Those infections can be cured with medication afterward, so I think it’s better to take PrEP (anti-HIV medication) and preventive anti-herpes medication instead, don’t you? A girl who’s my regular bareback partner is coming over to stay tonight, too. I’m not taking Vibra; I take Tafero and valacyclovir every day. And Zaltia as well. > There’s not much difference in how good it feels with or without a condom. Sometimes I think that too, but every now and then I still feel that bareback is physically better. I wonder whether that’s just in my head. Since men can’t really do a blind test with condoms, I guess it’ll remain a mystery forever. If it were Gackt, he’d probably be able to tell not only whether there was a condom, but even say, “This is a Sagami 0.02 mm, right?” The girl who’s coming over tonight as my bareback partner is going to move into one of the rooms in my apartment and live with me for about a month starting in March. I’ll still bring other girls over and have sex during that time, though. A transactional relationship where there’s no jealousy is easy, but I sometimes feel a little lonely too. Still, another part of me is firmly determined not to change my stance, thinking, “No, this is the way it should be.” I never planned to live this kind of life, but I guess I just have to go wherever the current takes me. I’ll enjoy today as well. > To Makeotoko Tafero isn’t that expensive, you know? A month’s supply costs around 5,000 yen through overseas online pharmacies. It’s definitely smarter than taking Vibra, so look into it a bit. You can catch genital warts even when using a condom. I’ve also had the Gardasil vaccine, but if you do catch it, all you can really do is go to the hospital before it gets bigger. When the girls go to the gynecologist for cervical screening, they often get diagnosed with “dysplasia” and put under observation. It happens so often that I sometimes wonder if it’s basically just a scare-based business run by gynecologists. > I prefer having it released in my mouth. Your throat can get chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, or herpes. I think the risk is higher when someone ejaculates in your mouth rather than just giving you oral, so you should get tested for now. Gonorrhea and chlamydia can be detected with a gargle-fluid test. They cost around 3,000 yen online. https://seibyoukensakit.com/item/detail/?no=5 Doing it about once a month seems like a good idea. I recommend it to girls who also have other papas or boyfriends. > I’m someone who doesn’t have romantic feelings. I’ve written this before too, but I’m probably someone with very little desire for romance. The difference between me and Makeotoko, though, is that I’m not bothered by it in the slightest. Why are you troubled by it? I honestly don’t get it. Isn’t it easier this way? Actually, if you’re looking for romance, wouldn’t papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) be the wrong place? You could use a suitable dating app, or even meet someone in real life. Makeotoko and Kamihikoki are both really puzzling to me. Even though they know what papa-katsu is, they look like people who deliberately cast a line into the ocean while hoping to catch sweetfish from a clear mountain stream. If you want sweetfish, just go to the river. Maybe it really is some kind of game or fetish? I’m not criticizing them—I’m genuinely curious. If I were looking for romance, I’d look in real life. And I’d approach someone more suited to me—at least someone in their forties or older. Going after someone under thirty, even if we happened to hit it off, would surely end up wrecking her life when you consider my age. I’d feel too guilty to do that. Since it’s only a physical relationship, I mainly go for girls around twenty.

I’ve never had a vasectomy, but if you’re saying unprotected sex is okay after the person in question has had one, then isn’t it simply a matter of whether you choose to believe what they say? It’s impossible to give advice when we don’t know who this person is. Enjoy the relationship however you like—if you want to risk regretting it later!

People can say whatever they want, so you can’t really trust words alone. If he says the allowance will be higher for going without protection, or that you need to do it that way to continue the arrangement, take the pill. Also, a vasectomy only prevents sperm from being released—it doesn’t protect against STIs. If you don’t want to do it without protection, say no clearly. Once you agree to it even once, it can become the default, so please be careful.

> Can this person be trusted? If you met him through Universe Club, I think he’s probably trustworthy. The reasons are that: - “When you turn him down, he makes sure to use contraception.” - In the case of Universe Club, they have the man’s real name, address, and phone number on file, so he can’t easily disappear. (That said, even if he claims you’re pregnant, they can’t simply give that information to the woman, so you would need to go through the courts.) Of course, there are bad people in the world. Even if you know someone’s real name and address, they may still run. We sometimes hear about people fleeing overseas and getting caught months later, even in unrelated cases. So it’s worth remembering that bad people will run regardless of the circumstances. With that in mind, I think you can probably take his vasectomy claim at face value. But if you feel he seems reasonably trustworthy yet want definite proof, there are various services that test semen if you send in a sample. Apparently, if you want to know the sperm’s motility, you have to take it in person, but if you only want to confirm whether sperm is present, mailing it in seems to be possible. You could have him prepare everything in advance—perhaps by purchasing a kit?—and then, the next time you go to a hotel, send them the sample from inside the condom. To be sure, you should probably handle the mailing yourself. After that, you should be able to view the test results online. That should tell you which is actually true. If he isn’t lying, I think he’ll cooperate. Of course, I think you should still use a condom, since there are also health concerns. But if you’ve already met three times, he does seem like someone you can trust to a certain extent. Even a trustworthy person could still unknowingly contract something from elsewhere. Still, if he treats you sincerely and you feel comfortable responding to him, I think it’s ultimately up to you to decide. Needless to say, using a condom is safer, but I suppose there are various factors involved. > Since men can’t perform a blind test regarding condoms, I guess it will remain an eternal mystery. Apparently, when you meet a highly skilled woman, you may find that the condom has been put on without you noticing. At that point, you should be able to figure out which one it is. Still, I’m amazed that there are women who can put one on without the man noticing… Some people are incredibly skilled. Apparently, they put it on while giving oral, and before you know it, it’s on even though you never saw the condom. I wonder if they combine that with magic tricks or something?