There’s a papa (a male supporter) who takes a long time to even read my LINE messages whenever things don’t go the way he wants.
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When we talked about continuing our relationship, I saw an emotional side of him that frightened me. I was struggling with how to deal with it, and during that time, I wasn’t able to respond to his messages for about two weeks.
Ever since then, he’s been taking a long time to read my messages, and I don’t get a reply until a long time has passed—about the same two weeks that I was unable to respond.
I feel like his feelings toward me may include resentment, rather than just affection.
Would it be best to consider this the end of our relationship?
What concerns me most from your post isn’t the fact that your message hasn’t been marked as read, but that you felt afraid.
I think it’s very important to take that feeling seriously.
Deliberately delaying the read receipt or withholding a reply for the same amount of time doesn’t come across as someone simply sorting through their feelings. It feels more like they’re retaliating emotionally—showing anger or resentment through their behavior rather than affection.
In an adult relationship (intimate), once you feel afraid because you’re being tossed around by the other person’s emotions, the relationship is no longer a safe one.
To be honest, I find people who become emotional extremely intimidating. Even before considering whether things can be resolved through discussion, continuing a relationship while carrying that kind of anxiety is exhausting.
It seems like you already know the answer deep down. If you feel that “there seems to be more resentment than affection,” I don’t think you need to force yourself to continue a relationship with that person.
If it were me, I would choose to end things at this point. Creating distance isn’t running away—it’s a choice to protect yourself.
Please value the unease and fear you felt.
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Wiping his body down sounds like it might be more exciting than sex. But I’d probably catch his cold.
If he’s a super generous (well-paying) papa, go along with it and stick it out. If he’s just an ordinary papa, dump him immediately.
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Yes, I’d recommend ending things.
This person is pretty easy to read. Even if you keep meeting him, you’ll only end up feeling scared, so cut ties immediately.
Hope this helps.
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That’s exactly the kind of papa (a male supporter) I like.
Thanks to there being so many papas like that, business has been booming for me.
This week, an incredibly beautiful girl who had caught a cold invited me over to look after her. I cleaned, did the laundry, hung up and folded her panties and bras, and wiped her down. It was so much fun. This kind of thing hits me more than intimacy. Anyone can do that, but when she’s feeling unwell, she invites me—not her boyfriend—into her room, lets me see her without makeup, and entrusts herself completely to me. It’s the best.
She’s also opened up about a past attempted rape, her experience working in the adult entertainment industry, and the unpleasant things she’s been through with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and nightlife work. I listen and accept it all. I’m truly grateful that she’s willing to open her heart to me.
And all of this is possible thanks to the sheer number of troublesome older men like the questioner’s papa (a male supporter).
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This sounds like a situation where you need to end things without making him angry, or you could end up being harassed. What should you do?
How about something like: “I actually have a boyfriend, but he recently found out. He’s a violent person, and I don’t want him to cause you any trouble, so I’m going to delete and block your contact. I hope you can understand the circumstances. Thank you for everything up to now.”
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You really don’t know why your message hasn’t been marked as read. They might have lost their phone, it might be buried under a pile of unread LINE messages, or, honestly, their feelings may have faded and they may have decided it’s too much trouble.
It sounds like your own deep-seated fears are making you interpret everything they say and do in the worst possible way. Since it’s your interpretation, you can change it however you want—but if you’re afraid of them, maybe you should end things.
Once the money stops, so does the relationship. This should have been a much more casual arrangement.
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Men are actually just kids at heart.
So when you say:
> He stopped replying until a long time had passed—about two weeks, the same amount of time I had taken to reply.
He’s simply thinking, “You didn’t contact me for two weeks, so I won’t contact you for two weeks either.”
It’s that simple.
In other words, there’s a chance things could go back to normal if you apologize when you see him. I understand wondering, “Why apologize now?” But when you’re dealing with a sulking child, that’s what you do, right?
Apologize and say, “I’ll make sure to reply promptly from now on, too.” I think things may return to normal.
He may be particularly stubborn, so you might have to apologize several times. But if you think of him basically as a sulking child, dealing with him becomes easier.
After that, if you decide that men who sulk are too much trouble, you can end things. If you feel that understanding him makes things simple enough, you can continue seeing him.
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> So this means we should end things, right?
If that’s what you want, then ending things is probably best. If not, there’s no need to break up.
The papa (male supporter) seems indifferent as to whether you stay together or part ways. That said, it doesn’t appear that his feelings have disappeared entirely.
Now it’s your turn to tell him how you feel.
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From a woman’s perspective, if you’re already feeling afraid, the normal advice would be to stop and get away. But looking at it from the papa’s side, the key question is: “Why did he become emotional?”
You may feel that “this person quickly loses his temper whenever things don’t go his way,” but it really depends on what he wanted and how you responded. It would help if you could give specific examples, including what happened during the time you were seeing each other.
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It’s Fullerene!
I think it would be best for the questioner to end things as soon as they feel afraid, regardless of how the other person feels.
The time it takes to reply can be affected by all sorts of factors, so compared with that, it’s a relatively minor issue.
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That sounds really painful. You’re free to end things, of course, but I feel like there’s something you need to sort out in what you’ve described.
If he’s matching your pace, isn’t that more likely his way of showing consideration—or giving you his answer—rather than “hating” you?
Feeling that he hates you is your subjective impression, and unless you face him and talk things through, you won’t know the truth. The people answering here can only judge based on the limited information you’ve provided. If you genuinely want to resolve this, I think you should have an honest, direct conversation with him instead of seeking permission online.
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Is the following also considered bad?
When you put a period at the end of a LINE or email message, younger people may perceive it as “cold” or think you’re angry, making them feel intimidated or stressed.
To introduce myself, I’m a papa (a male supporter) who doesn’t really understand how to use LINE. So if a woman leaves my message unread for two weeks, I mistakenly think that matching her pace is proper etiquette and do the same.
If they simply leave your messages unread and don’t contact you, isn’t that fine?
What’s truly frightening is someone who keeps sending persistent follow-up messages over a long period of time.
That’s all.
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