I’m thinking about working at a men’s esthetic salon.
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I understand that it’s an esthetic service, not sex work. From a man’s perspective, would you want your girlfriend to keep it a secret that she works at a men’s esthetic salon? I’m talking about telling a boyfriend or someone like that. I’m not sure whether I should tell him.
Men’s estheticians will touch your penis pretty aggressively, won’t they? Even the popular therapists push things right to the limit.
Some of them will even take care of you without being asked. In fact, I get the impression that if you behave quietly and gentlemanly, they’ll do it on their own.
That’s the kind of place it is, so telling your boyfriend about it would be completely out of the question.
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It depends on the boyfriend, but generally speaking, most men wouldn’t be thrilled about their girlfriend working at a men’s esthetics salon. That said, everyone sees things differently, so if your boyfriend is understanding of that kind of work, I don’t see a problem.
Apparently, more men’s esthetics salons have been drawing a clear line between their services and the adult entertainment industry lately.
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Honestly, regardless of the reality, many men see “men’s esthe” as being similar to an adult-entertainment service. The same can be said of hostess clubs, but in reality, how firmly an individual staff member maintains professional boundaries often isn’t taken into account in the face of other people’s preconceived notions.
It’s extremely difficult to change someone’s fixed beliefs, so if the person in question has particularly negative views about that kind of industry, it may be safer to avoid going into detail and keep things peaceful.
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- Shops that mainly cater to female customers but offer some services to men as well.
- Shops where experienced older women or male staff are always on hand, and men may sometimes perform the treatments themselves, such as AGA care or hair removal.
Other than the above, I assume that any shop advertising itself as a “men’s esthetic salon” is a place men go to hoping for an accidental touch, their expectations—and their crotches—rising.
When I was in my twenties, the first adult-entertainment establishment I ever visited had an experienced older woman come out to greet me—she was also extremely overweight—and I remember wanting to run away.
That’s all.
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This is Fullerene!
I’ve never been to a men’s esthetic salon myself. In fact, I think most people around me haven’t either. So this is simply my impression as someone who hasn’t experienced it.
As for the questioner’s belief that:
“Men’s esthetic salons are beauty salons. They’re not adult-entertainment venues.”
I think that’s about on par with saying:
“A hostess club is a place to drink and chat with women, not somewhere you go to hit on them.”
In other words, that’s just the official line.
So unless your boyfriend is the kind of person who would say he wouldn’t mind even if you worked in the adult-entertainment industry, I think it would be safer to avoid it.
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I used to work at a men’s esthetic salon, but whether you tell your boyfriend is up to you.
The women who are overwhelmingly popular usually tell their boyfriends from the start. If you’re going to tell him, I think it’s better to be upfront from the beginning so you don’t have to change your approach later.
The most popular women have new male customers book their next appointment—and even future appointments—before they leave, making them extremely difficult to book. They don’t need to offer any extra services, and they can even get by without giving massages.
Only a very small number of women become that popular. Most women don’t become particularly popular regardless of whether they offer extra services. If you don’t tell your boyfriend, I think there’s a good chance things may escalate just to keep your schedule full.
From a man’s perspective, I don’t think it’s something he’d be particularly happy about.
Personally, I dislike the atmosphere of cabaret clubs, lounges, and nightclubs—and I’m not suited to working there—so I’d rather work at a men’s esthetic salon.
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Even though I’ve been to men’s esthetics salons, I’ve never received any adult-industry-style services. In fact, someone is going to teach me the proper way to go about it.
If you visit a men’s esthetics salon specifically hoping for that kind of service and don’t receive it, you’ll feel disappointed. Apparently, if you consistently follow a certain set of rules and etiquette, you can receive those services.
This may be the general perception among men. So if you tell someone you work at a men’s esthetics salon, they may assume you provide that kind of service.
I don’t think you should tell your boyfriend.
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You have to be careful, since some places are basically sex services, and the whole thing is pretty gray.
A woman I was seeing through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) worked at a men’s relaxation salon. She said she chose her regular customers and had an adult relationship (full sex) with them.
Apparently, you can’t earn much unless you do that, and one of her regulars was a handsome older guy who paid less than Fuu’s allowance, lol.
She said it was because he was good-looking, lol.
Though by “older guy,” she apparently meant someone in his 30s.
(Seriously?)
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> I understand a men’s esthetic salon to be just a regular beauty or massage service—not adult entertainment.
That’s technically correct, but in reality, there are also men’s esthetic salons that operate as illegal adult businesses.
Men may be able to tell the difference through adult-entertainment magazines or similar sources, but every so often, a man who can’t tell the difference ends up in the news. In other words, he asks for sexual services at a legitimate men’s esthetic salon and ends up making headlines.
So, since many men assume that a men’s esthetic salon is basically an adult business, I imagine legitimate salons are negatively affected by that misconception.
Because of this, saying that it’s a genuine men’s esthetic salon—not an adult business—might work as an excuse. However, they’ll naturally ask for the name of the establishment too, and if it turns out not to be what you claimed, the truth will come out immediately.
It’s also possible that the person asking this question is simply being deceived, so I think they should properly investigate what kind of establishment it really is.
> From a man’s perspective, would you want her to keep it hidden that she works at a men’s esthetic salon?
If it’s a legitimate men’s esthetic salon and not an adult business, I don’t think there’s any need to hide it. But if it’s a gray-area or clearly illegal establishment, anyone who looks into it will probably be able to tell which it is right away, so I think it would be better not to mention it.
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I’ve never been there myself, so I only have the kind of image you’d associate with the adult entertainment industry. However, a girl I offered to meet works at a men’s esthetic salon and told me what goes on there, as much as she could.
I wouldn’t think anything of it if she were someone I was seeing casually, but if I were considering her as a girlfriend, I wouldn’t feel good about it—so I think it would be wiser to keep it hidden.
Hope this helps.
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