My affair partner has been having trouble getting it up during sex lately.
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Since we’re having an affair, I’ve always felt that sex was a given in our relationship… and my husband and I are sexless. We’re very sexually compatible, so it feels like a waste to break things off. What should I do?
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Some men say they can’t take ED medication because of an underlying medical condition. I feel like they should just visit a clinic to find out whether that’s really the case, though maybe they simply don’t like taking medication in general.
For men who don’t have that issue, it may just be that they don’t really understand how it works, so the problem could be solved if they took ED medication. But I feel like it would be difficult for a woman to suggest that. Depending on how and when you bring it up, it could hurt a man’s pride.
I wish there were a good way to say it. I’ve heard someone say that taking ED medication makes you stay hard the whole time—is that true?
It would be nice if saying something like, “Maybe you could give it a try?” actually worked, but I guess it’s not that easy.
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Just be honest and tell him how you feel. He probably needs ED medication.
If it’s a physical issue, it should work quickly. Getting it prescribed by a doctor may also give you peace of mind.
You could look for a clinic together online while you’re in bed. Cialis is recommended.
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I’m not exactly gifted in that department myself, so I’d like to think I understand how your fuck buddy feels.
If penetration isn’t essential, why not try a hand job? In my opinion, there’s a lot more to it than people realize, and it can deepen your connection with your partner even more than sex. You can find all kinds of information online, so I recommend discussing it together and experimenting. Hopefully, it will help your partner regain his confidence—and get him pounding away again.
Wishing you success and a satisfying sex life.
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Depending on your partner’s age and medical history, medication may be able to resolve the issue. I’m almost 50 myself, and things get pretty difficult right after I’ve been drinking, so I make sure to keep some on hand just in case.
Hope this helps.
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That man and the questioner are both reaching the point where it’s time to call it quits, so they should part ways cleanly. The questioner would be better off spending the rest of her life enjoying her favorite idols or celebrities. Apparently, before menopause, women’s female hormones drop and male hormones temporarily become dominant, increasing their sex drive—but it seems to get easier after they’ve been menopausal for a while. For men, once they can no longer get it up, their sex drive naturally fades.
If either men or women feel they have unfinished business sexually, they may still struggle emotionally even after their male hormones—the hormones associated with libido—decline. So while women are still being pursued, and while men can still get it up, they should use whatever they have, including money, to do everything they want. Thanks to that, I’m ready to attain enlightenment whenever the time comes. “I have no regrets in my life.”
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It really depends on what age group your partner is in. Generally, the reasons can be divided into:
- If he’s younger: the stimulation or novelty during sex with you may have started to fade.
- More commonly: aging or his physical condition.
So the usual suggestions would be to try changing the situation or location, or perhaps try sexual-enhancement medication—though he should be careful if he has any preexisting conditions.
That said, men are heavily influenced by their mental state, so the most important thing is not to make him feel pressured to “perform.” Once that pressure starts, he’ll think, “What’s going on? Why isn’t it working?” and it can become a vicious cycle that makes it even harder, haha.
If your physical compatibility is otherwise great, treating him as though “it’s okay even if you don’t get hard” might help things improve.
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