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Jan 23, 2026 14:21
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I’ve met several women so far, but haven’t found anyone I really clicked with. I’ve finally met someone I like and want to continue seeing her, but if a better man comes along, is she likely to move on to him?
I’d like to do everything I can on my end.
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They’re dealing with a person. If a better man came along, she might date him too, but generally speaking, wouldn’t she just walk away if she started feeling scared or it became too much of a hassle?
When you say “a better man,” I assume you mean someone who’s actually being considered as a man in a romantic sense. Normally, women don’t fall for or count papa-katsu men in that category.
Women also face the risk of their activities not continuing, so I don’t think they cut everyone off at once. As long as it isn’t a hassle and falls within what they’re willing to accept, the relationship can probably continue as long as it benefits her.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Back when I was seven years into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I made the mistake of falling for one woman and becoming fixated on her. She ended up blocking me.
After learning from that experience, I now date multiple women and spread out my feelings. Each person has their own good qualities, so I try not to expect everything from just one person.
Getting jealous and fixated on someone because you want too much from them will only backfire, so don’t overthink it.
I recommend making lots of offers, finding women on the same level as her, and dating multiple people.
アンディ
Male
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顔合わせの刺激が好きすぎてオファー続けてます。町中華をこよなく愛してます。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
If you’re labeled as a difficult person, you’ll probably be put on the list of people to avoid. That said, it also depends on the allowance, so if you stay humble and make sure your terms are competitive with other rivals, I don’t think they’ll drop you very often.
Hope this helps.
🏅 手コキ評論家
入会して8年。いまだ彷徨中です
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
Since it’s 50,000 yen, quietly slip in two extra Eiichi bills after handing over the allowance.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Wouldn’t you get dropped if you have a big dick and take a long time to finish?
🏅 日没を遅らせる唯一の方法は日没に向かって走り続けることだ
名古屋支店登録で、男性会員としての登録名もマックさんです。コラム多数書いてますのでよろしければご参照ください。20代の細身女性が好みで逆オファーには前向きです。経験無いまたは少ない方大歓迎。
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
A while ago, a 19-year-old girl suddenly disappeared after leaving something that sounded like a note. Whenever she came to my apartment, she would watch “Single’s Inferno” on Netflix.
It’s a show where one man goes on fun dates with multiple women and eliminates them one by one. This is just my speculation, but I think that 19-year-old may have wanted to imitate the Bachelor and try cutting off a papa. I can’t think of any other explanation.
So I think it might be best not to let girls watch “Single’s Inferno” on Netflix.
Anyway, now that work has settled down, I’ll continue. Since there’s no way to know why a girl cuts off her papa, there’s no real way to prepare for it. What papas need is a way to reset their mindset when they’re cut off or someone disappears.
A “good girl” to you is really just a girl who suits your needs, and becoming attached to her can feel almost like romance. You may find yourself thinking, “Now that she’s gone, I realize how much I cared about her. Was I really in love with her?” But that’s not what’s happening. It’s more like a child crying after breaking a favorite toy.
What’s done is done. Forget her quickly and start looking for the next girl. It’s no exaggeration to say that this ability to move on is the essence of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
“Papa-katsu is realizing that being cut off is part of the deal.”
If you live each day prepared to be cut off in the morning or by evening, you’ll have no doubts or anxiety. Rather than worrying, “What if this girl cuts me off?” the questioner should be grateful for today’s date, put their hands together, and appreciate it as a blessing.
As I’ve written before, I don’t believe there’s anything beyond papa-katsu. The only thing that exists is this very moment. All things are impermanent; one day is a lifetime, and every meeting happens only once.
I’ll say it again: “Papa-katsu is realizing that being cut off is part of the deal.” Say it out loud every morning and evening. You might just shed your old skin and become a handsome, mature man with a great expression.
横断歩道
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🏅 デート開拓者
ユニバース5年目。女性とはいろいろな商業施設に行ってデートしています。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Everyone has their own reasons.
Popular women face a lot of competition, so it may be easier on your mind to think of it as a miracle when an arrangement continues. When it doesn’t work out, I think it’s healthiest to move on quickly.
P.S.
A low allowance is out of the question, but offering too much can also make her wary. If you’re overly controlling, she’ll try to get away—but if you neglect her too much, she may leave as well.
In the end, it’s about getting to know the other person well.