We only contact each other when deciding on a date or arranging where to meet that day.

Just speaking from my own experience: If your papa has told you, “Please don’t contact me until I reach out to you,” it’s probably best not to. For example, what if his wife happened to see your messages and things got really serious? Could you take responsibility for that? That said, there were times when the other person contacted me anyway. In those cases, things often became vague and gradually fell apart, but if possible, it’s still better not to mention any specifics and keep it to something like, “How have you been?” That way, if something does happen, there’s at least a barely plausible excuse, like, “Oh, she’s just a girl from a restaurant I went to with some coworkers.” There can be all kinds of reasons why someone doesn’t contact you. They may genuinely be busy, or there may be another reason entirely. For reference, here are some reasons I’ve faded out on someone in the past—just as a reference: - A family bereavement or illness left me mentally unable to focus on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) - The allowance I had agreed to started feeling like too much, and I no longer felt able to continue - I simply wanted to see and meet some other girls I’m still fairly inexperienced, so that’s about all I can say.

I think your anxiety has grown because you’ve been treating him with such genuine care and consideration throughout the relationship. Looking at things from a slightly different perspective, it seems that in the beginning, you were usually the one inviting him out, whereas now you’re waiting for him to make the first move. It may be worth considering how he might be interpreting that change. He may actually be feeling a sense of distance, wondering, “She was so proactive at first, but now we can’t meet unless I’m the one who asks,” “Maybe she doesn’t like me as much as I thought,” or “Maybe she doesn’t want me anymore.” If he’s married, he may be holding himself back even more because he doesn’t want to overstep and risk being disliked. It’s completely natural to be concerned about how you were feeling the last time you met and to worry about what happened then. However, not every man would decide to end the relationship based on that alone. Still, when you keep waiting while feeling anxious, it’s easy for negative thoughts to spiral. In this situation, I think I would reach out once, casually, without making it feel too serious. For example: “I’d be happy if we could meet again. How does sometime around [date] work for you?” This gives him room to choose. If he responds positively, you’ll feel reassured, and if his reply is vague or lukewarm, it can help you gauge the current distance between you. Inviting him out isn’t clingy or too much. I think it’s a natural thing to do when you genuinely value the relationship. Please don’t suppress your own anxiety too much just because you’re afraid of being disliked.

It’s sad, but you might want to reach out soon in a way that doesn’t come across as pushy. For your next adult relationship (intimate), try making an effort to please them. It’s understandable that things can get boring if they become too predictable, so try adding some kind of unexpected twist. Find out what they like—different positions, the mood, and so on—and tailor things to them. One idea is to browse lingerie together on DRW, have them choose something they like, and then wear it the next time you meet. Or go to a hot spring and enjoy a private open-air bath together. If it feels like things are heading toward a goodbye, it might be worth trying something they’d probably enjoy rather than doing nothing…

Ace (monthly arrangement): I adjust to the dates Ace contacts me about. Equal to Ace (monthly arrangement): We contact each other and decide on the date. Regulars, Group A (pay-per-meeting): I meet them when they invite me. Regulars, Group X (pay-per-meeting): I invite them on the day before or the day of. That’s how it works in my case. The most appreciated are the Group X regulars (pay-per-meeting). Once a woman is in this category, we almost never stop seeing each other. To put it bluntly, it’s because they’re “convenient women.” > I’m wondering whether I should take the plunge and contact him myself. A relationship won’t continue with a woman who dislikes being invited, so if things have continued this long, I think it’s perfectly fine to invite her. Any woman would be happy to be asked out.

Assuming the arrangement is ongoing: If she used to contact you at first but suddenly stops, I take that as a sign that she wants to fade out. As for LINE, there are various ways to manage things—such as carrying two phones or keeping messages strictly businesslike. If a married man is going to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I think he should manage those risks himself. In the end, if you’re using LINE, it should be fine to contact her promptly at least once.

You should definitely take the initiative and ask him out! I’m married—and quite an old man—so the way we go about things may be a little different from yours, but we keep in regular contact, exchanging one message each day. After meeting someone four or five times, a man can usually get a pretty good sense of even a truly wonderful woman. From there, I think it comes down to how much you both keep each other in mind. Always being the one to ask can be emotionally tiring, so in my case, when I feel the time is right, I’ll sometimes be the one to invite her. In this case, you should definitely ask him out（笑） Besides, with a dating club, new people are constantly signing up, so you need to make an effort to keep the man you’re seeing interested in you（笑）

>I’m wondering whether I should take the initiative and contact him myself. It seems like his feelings may gradually be drifting away, so I think you should invite him to meet—as long as you don’t come across as pushy. For now, you could try something like: “Do you have any time this week or next when we could meet?” (If there are days when you’re unavailable, I think it’s better to mention those as well.)