I’m just an ordinary university student attending school in Tokyo.
I currently have one papa (a male supporter) whom I’ve been seeing for about two and a half years. We have very similar tastes and values, and I always have a great time with him. I’m also happy with our relationship as it is.
He’s a single man in his 50s, and we meet about once or twice a week. In addition to covering my rent and utilities, he also gives me around ¥150,000–¥200,000 a month as an allowance. I’m truly grateful for his support.
It’s not that I’m dissatisfied with our current arrangement, but I was just curious about how much support other people receive, so I decided to post. If anyone is in a similar situation, I’d love to hear about it in the comments!
Also, my papa’s birthday is in two months. I’d like to give him another present this year—does anyone have any recommendations?
So far, since he enjoys traveling abroad, I’ve given him things like a ballpoint pen or card holder in a design you can’t find in Japan. I’ve heard that he doesn’t usually wear suits for work and isn’t particularly interested in perfume, so I’m struggling to think of something different that won’t overlap with what I’ve given him before.
If there’s anything you’ve received that made you really happy, I’d love to hear your suggestions!
Isn’t around 50,000 yen per meeting pretty standard?
If you’re meeting six times a month, that seems a little low to me.
I don’t need gifts, so personally, I’d be happy with things like Starbucks gift cards or a massage.
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If I were seeing a college student I genuinely enjoyed spending time with, I’d probably give her a monthly allowance of ¥200,000.
If you’ve been together for two and a half years, I assume you’re both single and probably stay at each other’s places as well.
In my current relationship, I cover her allowance, rent, and clothes. Her wardrobe has been filling up with designer brands lately (lol).
That said, we also travel together and I sometimes stay at her place. Even in months when we’re too busy to meet more than twice, I still pay her allowance and rent.
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Do you mean ¥200,000–¥250,000 per month?
That works out to around ¥40,000–¥50,000 per adult relationship (intimate), so if he’s a papa (a male supporter) who doesn’t stress you out, he’s definitely a keeper.
You can always look for others on top of that.
In my case, it works out to ¥100,000 or more per meeting, and the dates last about two hours. Even after she got married and had children, meaning there’s no longer an adult relationship (intimate), I’ve continued giving her the same amount.
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I think that range is just about right in terms of both frequency and amount to be considered a relationship.
I also have girls I see once or twice a week, and others I see two to three or four times a week. The allowances are generally pretty similar too (since we’ve never actually discussed the amount, and there isn’t much adult intimacy involved, that seems about right).
There are also women in the C-type category who have an adult relationship every time, but I don’t consider those to be relationships. It’s more of an arrangement where I give them an allowance whenever we meet, so we don’t see each other that often.
As for gifts, a Bakune item might be a good option right now. Keychains and belts should also be fine if the timing is right, judging by how worn they are. If you meet frequently, it may be a good idea to judge based on how worn the items the other man uses are.
Judging from your previous question, it sounds like you’re considering registering again.
There may be a chance to meet someone new. On the other hand, after gaining more experience, you may no longer be able to show the same fresh reactions you had with your previous papa (a male supporter). So it may also be worthwhile to cherish the relationships you form early on.
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