I’d like some advice because I’m feeling really upset after being canceled on the day of our second date.
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I’m a Type C woman. When I first met this gentleman through Universe, he said he had plans afterward, so we only had tea before parting, and he gave me transportation money. We also made plans for a second meeting then, but he canceled the day before because he wasn’t feeling well.
We had arranged another date this time, but he canceled again three hours beforehand, saying that work had run late.
I took the day off work and spent about ¥1,000 on round-trip transportation. I’m already at the meeting place, so I’m feeling incredibly sad and disappointed.
At the very least, I’d really appreciate it if he could cover the train fare for the two trips so far… But I’m worried that even if we make plans to meet again, he may cancel once more, so it seems difficult.
Would it be unreasonable to ask him for that? I’d really appreciate advice from those of you with more experience.
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I understand how you feel.
But you really shouldn’t get involved any further. If you demand payment, it’s highly likely to lead to even more trouble.
Let’s hope the next papa (a male supporter) is better.
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I’m surprised someone like that exists even with Universe setting.
Canceling at the last minute two times in a row is awful. If he was busy, he shouldn’t have made plans in the first place.
> It would help if you could cover the train fare for both meetings…
Since the first cancellation was the day before, it doesn’t seem like you actually incurred any train fare. And if the second was three hours beforehand, it doesn’t seem like you incurred any then either. So I don’t understand why you’re asking him to cover the train fare. What exactly do you mean?
> I’m hesitant to make plans to meet again because he might cancel…
If someone has already canceled twice, I think there’s a high chance he’ll cancel again. Even if you do manage to meet next time, he may well cancel the time after that too. So I think it would be fine to just give up on this man.
If you don’t reply, there probably won’t be any further plans.
That said, this kind of man is no good, so ideally you should leave feedback.
But there are a lot of staff members who side with the men, so they probably won’t handle it properly.
I almost feel like writing, “Be careful—he cancels at the last minute from the second meeting onward,” but…
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A decent man would probably be willing to cover your actual expenses.
If he asks to see you again, try telling him that you’d be happy to meet as long as he reimburses you for the actual costs next time.
If he accuses you of being all about money, you’re better off ending things right away.
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It’s probably best not to see him again.
That’s just the kind of person he is, so the more plans you make with him, the more disappointed you’ll end up feeling.
Let it go and wait for the next offer.
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