I currently work at both a massage parlor and a delivery-based adult service, and I’ve never done papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) before. My income from the adult industry has been declining, so I’m considering it as a source of side income. If I found someone willing to support me, I’d even consider leaving the nightlife industry.

Sex workers and hostesses aren’t popular in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I don’t specifically seek them out either. I dislike being able to see the “one hour, so much” or “one-and-done” mindset. If I wanted a sex worker, I’d go there instead. I’m here because I don’t want a sex worker.

What do you value most in a woman? For me, it’s the peace of mind that comes with the relationship. I use various dating clubs, so I prefer to keep things discreet and under the radar, haha. The most important thing is being able to see each other safely and comfortably. No one else finding out, staying healthy, keeping promises, and being able to stay in regular contact without fail. And ideally, someone who’s a little cute, haha. She doesn’t have to be beautiful. I’m an old guy, after all—I recently got played by a beauty! Haha.

I’m looking for an adult relationship (intimate) with ordinary female college students or office workers—not current sex workers. There are plenty of papas out there. I avoid approaching women who currently work in the sex industry. I don’t want to risk catching anything, and I’m also uncomfortable with the idea of someone seeing multiple unrelated people. That said, quite a few women who do papa-katsu have probably worked part-time—or done it for a short period in the past. You can usually tell from the way they behave when things become intimate, even from how they initiate oral sex, haha. I don’t mind if someone did it a little in the past, but I don’t want anyone currently working in the sex industry. There have been women who acted and lied about it, so I didn’t realize at first. But I eventually found out and ended things.

I like helping a sex worker leave the industry using only my own resources, but I absolutely hate seeing multiple people at once. Since you’ll eventually catch something otherwise, I had every new partner get an STI test each time we met. I get tested too.

> Would it be safer to keep it hidden? With Universe Club, there’s a section on the application form asking about your occupation, and they also ask whether you work in the adult entertainment or nightlife industry. Naturally, this is because many men don’t want to make offers to women who work in those fields. If you can keep it hidden until you part ways, then perhaps it might be fine. But if it’s discovered at some point, the relationship could end then and there, and the club may also receive a complaint. If it were a matching app, you could choose not to mention it unless asked. With Universe Club, however, the difficult part is that you would also have to deceive the staff. That said, it seems many women who work in adult entertainment don’t tell the staff either. > Also, what is the number-one thing men look for in women? I think they’re looking for something where, while you’re together, you act like a couple. They want to enjoy talking and going on dates, but they also want intimacy. That’s probably the general idea. If you give off the impression of, “As long as we’re intimate, the man will be satisfied, right?” men will drift away. So even if you’re thinking, “In the adult entertainment industry, it’s a certain amount per hour,” you need to avoid letting that kind of atmosphere show. Also, with an escort club, it’s not as though offers will keep coming one after another, so it becomes important to maintain relationships with the people you date. Of course, you don’t need to continue seeing someone you dislike. For example, if you expect to receive offers from around five men, you should think in terms of how many of those five you can continue seeing. (If you’re popular, you may receive many more offers, of course.)

I’m totally fine with someone who used to work in the adult entertainment industry, but I’m not comfortable with her doing both at the same time, since the risk of catching something increases significantly. So while hiding it may help her get more offers, I can’t help wondering whether that’s really right. (Though if a papa (a male supporter) is seeing several women who are into adult entertainment, the risk is still high even with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).) As for what I look for in a woman, I’d say the ability to make it feel natural. I know she’s doing it for the money, but it’s a turn-off when it feels too much like a job. So please make it enjoyable enough that I genuinely feel like giving you money.

“Why do you work in the sex industry? You’re not familiar with this kind of thing?”—I started by voicing my complaint, or whatever you want to call it. The eldest of the recently retired “Hakata Busty Sisters” was an escort. I realized it when we went to a love hotel—she was incredibly familiar with how everything worked there. When I asked, “Have you worked in the sex industry before?” she readily admitted it. By then, we had already built a certain relationship, so it wasn’t a dealbreaker. But if I’d known from the beginning, things might have been different. In conclusion, rather than actively hiding it, wouldn’t it be best not to bring it up unless you’re asked? That said, according to the eldest sister, working in the sex industry and papa-katsu are worlds apart. It may not work out if you approach it simply as a source of side income.