I’ve been registered for a month, and even though I’m almost 40, I was fortunate enough to receive offers from three men. After meeting each of them, we agreed to see each other again in a few months, which made me very happy.
All three of them said “in a few months” because of scheduling conflicts, and we both understood and agreed to that. It’s not that I’m hoping to see them particularly often.
However, our communication after the dates ended with just a thank-you message. Should I keep in touch regularly—say, once a month—until our next date?
When we parted, they all said, “Please get in touch again,” but I’m a little worried about whether we’ll really meet again in a few months. Part of me wonders if they were just being polite…
Lately, I haven’t been receiving many new offers because of scheduling issues. I often see “no heavyset women” in men’s profiles, so I’m wondering whether being nearly 40 and having a curvy figure makes me less popular.
My questions are:
1. Even if we’ve agreed to meet again in a few months, should I message them about once a month?
2. Is it still possible to receive offers through a club when you’re nearly 40 and curvy? I’ve received three offers, but absolutely nothing beyond that… I’m wondering what I can do to receive more.
If anyone has had a similar experience, I’d really appreciate hearing from you. Thank you.
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For someone in their 40s with a fuller figure, getting three offers is already quite impressive—I’d say that’s really good.
So you should value those connections.
I’m a little curious why all three of them said it would be a few months later. They may have just been being polite.
It’s already too late now, but the important offers are the ones you get the moment your profile goes live.
Your profile will gradually drop lower in the search results, so I think the chances of getting offers will decrease.
If you continue to receive offers, it may simply be that you’re underestimating yourself—you might actually be doing pretty well.
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>1. Even if you’ve made plans to meet again a few months from now, should I message him about once a month?
I think it’s better to stay in touch.
Even if he genuinely intended to meet again and it wasn’t just a polite formality, if you don’t contact him, he may gradually lose interest in meeting. Even if it was only a polite formality, as long as he doesn’t dislike you, staying in touch may make him want to meet again.
I also think it would be fine to message him about once a week.
>2. Even though I’m almost 40 and on the curvier side, is it still possible to receive offers through a club? I’ve actually received three offers, but nothing beyond that… I keep wondering what I can do to receive more offers.
You’ll get the most offers at the beginning, and they tend to decrease afterward.
So I think it’s better to accept that this is how things work and focus on figuring out how to make the three current supporters like you more and want to see you again.
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If he said it would be a few months from now, I think it would be fine to send him an occasional email or LINE message. If he replies, there’s a good chance you’ll be able to meet.
He may have just been being polite, so I think it’s worth checking in anyway.
Also, some men prefer fuller-figured women or women around 40, so that may be why you were able to register.
As for offers, don’t rush. I’d suggest waiting six months; if you still haven’t received any offers, then you might conclude that there isn’t much demand for you right now.
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1. While you’re still feeling unsure, I think it’s a good idea to exchange messages regularly.
I’m also seeing a woman about once every one or two months.
Because of that, during the first six months or so—when I still don’t know whether things will continue—I send a message the day before our date, something like, “Looking forward to seeing you tomorrow.”
However, if he’s the type of man who doesn’t message much, contacting him too often may feel like a burden.
I think it’s safest to send a quick check-in about once a month at most, just to see how he’s doing.
2. If you’re nearly 40 and have a fuller figure, it’s only natural not to expect a large increase in offers.
Even aside from that, many women receive all the offers they’re going to get within their first month.
I think the basic approach is to value the men you’re currently able to meet.
You may be invited to have your photos retaken about once every six months.
If you’re aware that you have a fuller figure, you could lose a little weight and have your photos retaken. That might lead to receiving offers for about another month.
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