After meeting countless people through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’ve realized exactly what kind of arrangement I can continue enjoying. I tend to stay with people who meet all of these conditions:

If a man brings up or hints at any of these eight terms on the first date, I won’t invite him for a second one. I honestly don’t understand what men find enjoyable about it.

The fact that she claims to have met three figures’ worth of people already tells me she’s lying. I don’t know a single woman who’s received three-figure numbers of offers. Even the absolute top would probably be around 70 offers. And even with 70 offers, she’d only actually meet at most half of them. These days, even 20 offers is considered a lot, so if she’s met more than 100 men, that number must include other dating clubs too. Anyway, setting aside that boring answer, most papas want the exact opposite of what the person asking for is looking for, so finding a match will probably be difficult. Papas generally want a more involved, close relationship. What concerns me more is Kazu. Kazu, who never misses a post, hasn’t answered at all. This is serious.

I don’t want that kind of casual relationship. For everyone I’ve stayed with long-term, I’ve given them at least ¥10 million, so I don’t think either of us will ever forget the other. Though there have only been about five of them so far. With the person I’ve been seeing for 11 years, I’ve traveled everywhere from Nemuro in the east to Yonaguni Island in the west.

Well, I’d say those are terms that work in your favor. If there are men willing to continue under those terms, make sure you value them. By the way, I’m not a good fit for at least the first two conditions you listed. Also, I’m not sure what you mean by “light play,” but being intimate with you doesn’t sound like it would be much fun.

The answer is already in your question. > Only a very small number of people fit the bill. That’s exactly what it means. No, I’m not mocking you. You just need to connect with someone within that small group.

Getting offers of 100,000 yen or more means you’re clearly very popular. The fact that there are men continuing under those terms suggests that your terms are perfectly reasonable. I don’t want a relationship that’s just about sex, like working in the adult entertainment industry, but I also don’t want a high-risk relationship where we get too deeply involved in each other’s private lives. I enjoy day trips, but I don’t like overnight trips. Some compromise is often necessary, but ideally, I’d like an arrangement with as little stress and anxiety as possible, without compromising too much.

> What do you think of these terms? I think this varies from person to person. If this is the kind of man you want, that’s entirely up to you, and I don’t think others have any place telling you otherwise. > Am I asking for too much? If you’ve met more than 100 men and only a very small number met these criteria, then statistically, you’re looking for someone who makes up only a few percent of the population. So in terms of the numbers, I’d say you may be asking for too much—that is, there simply aren’t many men who meet your terms. If we’re looking at the numbers alone, it might be better to set terms that apply to around 20% of men—roughly one in five. That said, finding someone you can be with without feeling stressed is also important. In that sense, I wouldn’t necessarily say you’re asking for too much. And if you’re attractive enough to have met more than 100 men, then terms that might seem overly demanding to the average person may not be unreasonable for you at all. Whether you continue pursuing your ideal or make some compromises is entirely up to you.

If papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is viewed as a relationship, then naturally, both the man and the woman should try to fulfill each other’s needs as they deepen their connection. Ideally, as the relationship grows closer, it will progress into a more intimate relationship. If both partners satisfy each other, things like play, trips, and overnight stays will likely develop naturally as well. Doing anything too suddenly could catch the other person off guard, so when it comes to taking things step by step, both men and women should understand that this is the usual approach.

Interesting perspective. Well, honestly, that’s probably how it is. I try to make sure I’m chosen as a papa (a male supporter) by keeping things easy and minimizing anything unpleasant or stressful—for both of us. I focus on things besides “sex.” Sorry, but I do have a sex drive, so that part might be unavoidable. My monthly arrangement partners are also women who are sexually inclined or comfortable with intimacy. Here’s my own answer key, so to speak（笑） If we’re talking about women I’d want to continue seeing as monthly arrangement partners—women I’d want to keep seeing and meet again: - Close meeting spot → If she lives nearby, good. If she’s easy to meet even from farther away, even better. - Able to meet regularly → Ideal when our schedules and expectations match. - Protection → I don’t love using protection, but I understand the need. △ - Light activities → If she’s sensitive and has a good fit, that’s great. Oral, cowgirl, standing from behind, and 69 are musts for me. ◎ I have a strong sex drive, so a second round is also a must. And I’m not exactly small down there, so it’s not really “light,” haha. But everything is pretty standard, and I don’t do anything she says she dislikes. - No possessiveness or dependence → Absolutely. And I don’t share personal information. ○ - Infrequent messaging → Contact for making plans is enough! We can communicate properly when we meet. I feel more comfortable with someone who replies quickly on LINE, though. ◎ - Kind and gentle → A calm, kind woman is ideal. - No long trips or overnight stays → True! But once we get close, I start wanting to invite her anyway. It usually doesn’t work out, we see each other’s true colors, and then break up, haha. △ Additional note: - Cleanliness → Women also need to pay attention to their scent and take proper care of themselves. If she smells unpleasant down there, it’s a turnoff. Since many men in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are looking for an adult relationship (intimate), I think women who are sexually inclined or comfortable with intimacy are more likely to maintain a long-term arrangement. All of my monthly arrangement partners finish. Actually, I try to help them finish during foreplay. I went from being unpopular with women to doing papa-katsu for over seven years, and now I’ve learned how to get them there. The allowance is average, and my looks are average too, but I work hard on my physique through weight training. I want to be a papa who can satisfy a woman’s desires for money, food, sleep, and sex. As for the desire to sleep: after our adult relationship (intimate) at the hotel, I tell them they can sleep until it’s time for the second round. Since I usually help them finish during foreplay in the first round, they generally fall asleep, haha. That’s my differentiation strategy, haha.