Regarding PATOL, is it generally better for women to wait for invitations from men rather than message men first?
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It looks like the platform allows women to message men as well, but I feel it might come across as insincere to message a large number of people. On the other hand, if I just wait, I don’t know whether I’ll receive any replies—or even whether I’ll be able to meet someone regularly—so I feel like I won’t get anywhere that way…
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If you send a message that you genuinely feel is sincere, I think men who recognize and appreciate that sincerity will respond. At least, that’s how I approach it.
I ignore messages that don’t feel sincere—obvious copy-and-paste templates, for example—no matter how attractive the profile is or whether he’s Black class. If it’s someone I had favorited through the club, I take that opportunity to remove him from consideration.
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Messages from Patro that are clearly templates sent without even properly looking at my profile hardly ever interest me. I’ve even had people I’d never messaged first send me, “Thank you for your message,” which was honestly laughable.
That said, I’ve made offers many times with genuinely enthusiastic messages, so it’s not impossible. If someone catches your interest, give it a shot.
Lately, though, I was getting far too many messages from members of clubs other than Universe Club who didn’t have videos, so I’ve set them to hidden.
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> It seems that, technically, women can also send messages to men.
I think if a feature is available, it means you’re allowed—or even encouraged—to use it.
> I feel that sending messages to an unspecified number of people is insincere.
I agree that sending the exact same copy-and-pasted message to everyone is insincere. But if you actually read each person’s profile before messaging them, I don’t think it’s insincere even if the messages are somewhat similar.
What’s important is to word your message so that the man doesn’t feel like you’re sending it to a large number of people.
Men probably assume that you’re messaging various people anyway, but they have no proof. If the message feels personally written for them, that alone may make them think, “Should I make her an offer?”
That’s why I get the impression that women who send more messages tend to receive more offers.
Originally, a dating club is a place where the club introduces men to you without you having to do anything, as long as you leave everything to them. So I think whether this is a good thing or not really depends on whether the effort would be a burden for you.
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“Insincere”? Haha.
The moment you’re doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you’re already being pretty insincere, so there’s no need to worry about it.
From a man’s perspective, we can’t tell whether a woman is messaging lots of people or only one person. So if you want offers, you might as well message plenty of people.
There are also lots of papas (male supporters) who don’t check profiles.
Honestly, when Fuu had her profile public, she hardly ever received messages from the type of women she had favorited. ↓ Instead, she only got messages from women she wasn’t attracted to at all and would never make an offer to, so she stopped making her profile public.
That’s just how it is.
It only raises your chances of getting an offer by a few percent at most. Think of it as your chances being slightly higher when you message someone and get seen, compared with simply getting buried among all the profiles.
Even so, your chances are still higher than if you don’t message anyone.
You can’t win the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket. Even if you do buy one, your chances of winning are lower than your chances of dying in a plane crash—but you still can’t win if you don’t buy a ticket. Haha.
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If you’re interested, I think you should go ahead and message him.
I actually receive a lot of messages from women—mostly women outside Universe Club, though…
That said, from a man’s perspective, it feels natural to simply ignore messages from women he isn’t interested in.
So I recommend messaging men who have added you to their favorites.
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