Maybe it’s because I’m in a lower class, but I’ve never met a man at Universe who seemed truly gentlemanly. (Even when men make their profiles public, I avoid looking because I don’t want to find out my own class and feel upset.)

Maezawa here, answering as well. > I assume it’s because I’m in one of the lower classes, but I’ve never met a man through Universe who struck me as gentlemanly. I’m not sure whether class has anything to do with it. (I don’t think it does, but I’ve never extracted the classes of men with poor feedback, and I have no intention of doing so.) Even so, there are inevitably some men—around 10%—who aren’t gentlemanly at all. They’re the men who receive what is commonly called a lot of negative feedback. What I find puzzling is why you seem to receive offers only from that 10%. What is your dating type listed as? People say that bringing up dating types is leading the person in a certain direction, so it’s considered taboo—but I’m going to mention it anyway（笑）. It might be worth thinking about which dating types are likely to attract men who aren’t overly aggressive. You can change it yourself, so I think it would be a good idea to give it some careful thought. > The other day, I ended up having to go to a women’s clinic the day after the first meeting. So, does that mean he ejaculated inside you without your consent? As I’ve said before, doing something like that without the other person’s consent is a serious problem. I feel that men who do this should be forcibly removed from the club. At present, however, the club does not yet take that kind of action. That said, the club can issue a warning, and if he repeats the behavior despite being warned, then even if the relationship is considered freely consensual, he is not a gentleman and can be forcibly removed. Please be sure to send the club your feedback as well. In the first place, an act carried out without consent seems like it should qualify as rape. If he shows no remorse or willingness to apologize, you might also consider filing a criminal complaint. In civil matters, turning an apology into something tangible usually means paying money. However, if the victim demands payment, there is a possibility it could be considered extortion, so please be careful when asking him to apologize. Ideally, you should consult a lawyer properly about this. First, ask how he feels about what happened, record that conversation, and then take the recording to a lawyer for advice. That said, the club is not encouraging disputes. If the woman tells the man that she had to visit a clinic the following day, and he sincerely apologizes and offers her appropriate compensation, the best outcome would be to settle the matter that way. “An amicable resolution” may sound a little odd, but an amicable settlement is best.

I’m Saito, a column writer ♪ For me, joining a dating club is about meeting wonderful women discreetly, to a certain extent. I do encounter attractive women and temptations in everyday life, but since they can lead to trouble, I decline even one-on-one meetings, regardless of what kind of woman it is. If there’s absolutely no alternative, my secretary comes along as well. > So, if a woman isn’t very attractive on paper, do men look down on her, thinking, “She must be desperate because she doesn’t get many offers, so she’ll be cheap and do whatever I say”? I wouldn’t make her an offer in the first place. Nothing is more dangerous than something cheap—or free. Treat people with pride. If you associate with low-quality people, before you know it, you’ll become one of them too.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Even if you feel you’re in a lower-tier class, please don’t put yourself down too much. I’m a poor man in the lower tier myself, and I’m also a salt-and-pepper-haired older guy（笑） Maybe because I’m an older man, I’m perfectly comfortable doing this even in the lower tier (at least, I try to approach it like a gentleman). Perhaps the club thought it might be good to have a lower-tier member answering questions as well. (I did ask them to let me have my say, but I don’t know the real reason they allowed me to answer.) This isn’t because I make my profile public, but I do think you should definitely take a look at it. In my case, I clearly state the kind of relationship I’m looking for. Perhaps because the women who accept my offers understand and agree that “that kind of relationship would be fine,” I’ve only met one woman whose expectations were completely off the mark. There have been women who were, so to speak, guilty of a “type scam,” but even then, I didn’t personally feel that they were completely off the mark. Of course, beautiful women are always preferable, but I look mainly at the woman’s profile and the club’s comments when searching. “Don’t women with less impressive specs get looked down on, with people thinking, ‘She doesn’t get many offers, so she must be desperate, cheap, and willing to do whatever she’s told’?” As for me, I can’t make offers to women with high-end profiles. And since I’m also salt-and-pepper-haired, there’s a good chance they won’t accept my offer. That’s why, whenever I make an offer, I first select at least five women, starting with my top choices, and then send the offer. In that sense, I’m desperate too when I make offers. When someone accepts my offer, even if I think, “That’s a bit of an excessive request,” I still say, “Okay.”