> If you’re fun to talk to, charming, and generous in what you offer,
if that doesn’t also mention being prettier, more beautiful, or cuter than your photos, then I assume the impression you give in person is probably about the same as in your photos.
Since many men decide whether to send an offer based on their impression of your photos, I feel that your appearance may be the reason you’re receiving few offers.
That means if you can get men to meet you, you have a good chance of continuing with them based on your personality. So I think you should send lots of messages along the lines of “You seem wonderful,” with a personal note attached.
Those messages should probably be warm and written in a way that conveys how great you are as a person.
Incidentally, I don’t think you should actually write something like, “People tell me I’m fun to talk to, charming, and generous.” Ideally, those qualities should come through naturally in your writing without having to state them directly.
> I guess all I can do is improve my appearance, since that’s the first impression people get.
I think improving your appearance can be difficult, so it may be better to change your strategy.
For example, if you feel that with a dating club there are limits to how much you can promote yourself, and that you’re at a disadvantage because you can’t use edited photos,
then perhaps on an app you might be able to meet men using edited photos. Or maybe you could meet men through your written self-promotion.
Once you meet them, you can let your personality speak for itself.
> I’ve also been logging into PATOLO lately. Is it okay for me to message men directly with something like, “I’m interested in getting to know you, so I’d love to start by messaging”?
I think it’s common to start with a simple greeting.
Feel free to send plenty of messages.
P.S. I did my best to figure out who you were and somehow managed to find you.
As for PATOLO, writing that you’re re-registering is honest and may be fine, but personally, I don’t think you need to go out of your way to mention it. I also don’t think you need to write that you met some good people in the past.
Since the staff comment clearly says that you’re re-registering, I don’t think you need to mention it in your own comment as well.
My impression of your photos is the same as Mac’s: they don’t do you justice.
There’s really no other way to put it than bad luck, but it seems you happened to get a new staff photographer.
When I look at the video, you have such a natural expression that I find myself thinking it might be better to take a frame from the video and use that as one of your photos.
Also, in your selfie from Universe—the third one—you look slim around the waist and have a great figure, while the staff photo makes you look heavier. It makes me wonder which one is the real you, so perhaps the staff member’s photography wasn’t quite up to par.
More specifically, your bottom in the second selfie from Universe looks amazing. It looks so great that I can see how working out at the gym would result in that, and I think quite a few men would feel the same way if that photo were included among the staff-taken photos instead of just as a selfie.
If your abs look great too, it might be worth including a photo of them as well.
That said, men don’t really look closely at selfies, and even when they do, they tend to assume they look fake or edited. So unless those photos are included among the staff-taken photos, they may not have much impact.
For now, in your LINE exchange with the staff, mention that the photos are for Maezawa and say something like, “I was asked to send photos, so I’m sending them.”
Please send:
- A version of the second photo that shows your face as well. (This may be difficult to take as a selfie, so you’ll probably need someone else to take it.)
- A version of the third photo that clearly shows your face
- Unedited photos, preferably as large as possible
- Any other photos you think might work
If you send those, I’ll do my best to have two of the six photos replaced.
(I say “I’ll do my best” because the staff ultimately have control and may refuse, but I really will try.)
If you’d like, try looking up “Mac” from the Nagoya branch on Patro and message him saying, “I’m the person from the question box.” If there’s anything specific you’re wondering about, I can tell you. It’ll also be good practice for messaging.
P.S.
I got your message. I think the issue is that the photos don’t do you justice. You’re more attractive with a serious expression than a smile. When you smile, your cheeks look rounder and your eyes narrow. All your Universal Studios Japan photos are smiles, though. I actually find you more appealing in the videos where you have a serious expression while answering questions. Of course, everyone has different preferences, but that’s how I feel.
The photos on Patro are selfies. It’s a common thing with girls these days to take photos from slightly above, but it gives the impression that you’re deliberately trying to make your face look slimmer, which doesn’t leave a good impression. The photos are also unclear as information, which is kind of irritating.
Your writing and the way you respond are good, though—they show that you’re intelligent and straightforward.
