A question for the male members: Would you feel uncomfortable if, at your first meeting, a woman asked why you decided to make her an offer?
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I’m curious about what part of my profile, photos, or other details made you want to make an offer, but if most men would find the question unpleasant, I’ll refrain from asking.
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Some people ask about that from time to time. I guess neither person is completely honest when you’ve only just met.
When asked why I made an offer, Fuu’s answers are usually:
- Because I liked her
- Because something on her profile caught my interest
- Because she looked classy but also kind of sexy
- Because she had a great figure and a nice waist
If they also ask what kind of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) I do or how many other regular arrangements I have:
“I guess it’s been about seven years.” (I might be honest about that part.)
“I’m seeing a few other women too.”
But I don’t give a specific number.
Even if I ask the woman the same question, she’ll usually say something like, “Well, I have a few,” without giving an exact number.
After we’ve met a few times, I’m a low-key papa who’s fine with her having a boyfriend or other papas—and I’ll even support her. That’s my second-choice strategy, with an appropriate allowance.
So when I bring it up, I get to hear interesting stories, like her having other papas, a friends-with-benefits partner, a strange boyfriend, or getting covered in hickeys by her boyfriend.
I suppose I’m just passing along the male perspective.
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I’m not uncomfortable with it at all, though I do think it depends on the person.
Speaking as a reminder to myself, people tend to react to each individual word more than we realize.
If you worry about it too much, you won’t be able to have a conversation.
Maybe that’s part of what “chemistry” is all about.
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It wouldn’t make me feel bad, but when meeting someone for the first time, they’re unlikely to tell you the whole truth about their reasons.
You’ll probably get a more honest answer if you ask after you’ve gotten to know each other a little better.
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In my case, I watch the videos to see whether she matches the image in her photos and whether there’s anything off-putting about the way she responds. I’ve never been asked that question, but that’s how I would answer it.
*Some women already seem unmotivated from the way they respond.*
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Would you feel uncomfortable if a woman asked why you chose to make her an offer?
I wonder if anyone would really be bothered by something that minor. I think it’s perfectly natural for her to ask.
But if she gets as specific as asking what you noticed in her profile or photos that made you want to make an offer, you might start thinking she’s a little unusual.
If you’re curious, you could try bringing it up yourself.
For example, you could say, “The staff asked me to pose like that, and I was so embarrassed.”
He might reply, “That pose was sexy, so I just had to make you an offer.”
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It would probably feel as annoying as being asked in a job interview, “Why did you apply to this company?” You’d have to come up with some harmless compliment.
And if you met them and thought, “What a dud—what a shame,” you’d probably move beyond discomfort and start getting angry at yourself.
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