I’m a 55-year-old man.

I’m in the Black class, but I’ve never used the concierge service. I’ve only met my account manager once. It wasn’t to get any advice or anything—we’re on friendly terms, so it was more like catching up over tea after a long time. I think staying in the Platinum class would be fine, but don’t you simply need to make more offers? When it comes to finding a wonderful woman, you just have to keep trying. I’ll probably end up making around 200 offers in total, and among them, there were two women I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. That’s a 1-in-100 chance. One of them and I don’t have an adult relationship (intimate). I don’t care about sex at all; I’m happy just being able to see her. As long as I can help her in life, I’m satisfied. She’s the first—and probably the last—woman who made me realize that sex really isn’t all that important.

No, no, that would be such a waste. Lately, I’ve personally started thinking that women 28 and older might be ideal. Sure, the younger they are, the more intense that thrill can be—the kind of pleasure that makes your genes rejoice. But after seeing someone several times, if she lacks experience or it feels too much like an obligation, you eventually get bored, don’t you? Fuu’s recent lineup is mostly women aged 28 to 30. They’re still fairly young, but they’ve gained some experience. The ones who have good personalities and are devoted in bed gradually become my monthly partners. They get really into it, climax, and even tell me things like, “Fuu’s is the best,” as flattering words that satisfy my need for validation. Haha. Recently, I tried seeing women who were 36 and even 40, and it was surprisingly great. They’re very beauty-conscious, and some of them take even better care of their bodies than women in their twenties. As you’ve noticed, I’ve also been feeling lately that the age of women I find attractive gradually rises along with my own age. That said, I don’t want to stereotype or limit myself. I have monthly partners ranging from 20 to 40, and I enjoy the different qualities each one has. A 20-year-old may just lie there passively, but I can’t give up the tightness and electrifying pleasure down there. Then the following week, the devoted, anything-goes sex with a 40-year-old woman can be incredibly satisfying too. That’s possible at these dating clubs. So after doing this for that many years, it would be a waste not to make offers to women in their thirties and forties. Also, if you’re taking care of things at a men’s esthe salon, the sex with your current partners in their twenties must be pretty unsatisfying. Is it even more obligatory than going to a sex-service establishment? Fuu doesn’t make someone a monthly partner unless he’s satisfied, though.

I joined a dating club in my 40s, and I’m now a Black Class member in my 50s. There are many women in the Black Class who are beautiful, considerate, and wonderful to spend time with, so I really enjoy going on dates with them. That said, you don’t become Black Class based on the quality of sex, and the concierge can’t advise you on physical compatibility either. (In fact, once women reach the Black Class, many of them can earn well without intimacy, so I feel that quite a few are less interested in that side of things.) So if physical compatibility is your top priority, you may well be disappointed. The best woman I’ve met was in her 30s, but women who work in the beauty or hospitality industries can be far more attractive than average women in their 20s. In the end, I don’t think you’ll be satisfied until you experience it for yourself, so why not go ahead and make an offer to a Black Class woman?

Everyone enjoys it in their own way, don’t they? If I continue for another five years or so, I’ll have about the same amount of experience and be around the same age as the person who posted this question. I was a Black member in the past, but honestly, I didn’t feel that it offered enough additional benefits. At the time, the concierge service would ask about my preferred type and introduce women who matched my preferences. I also asked about and made offers to women who were kept private or had rare professions. They would sometimes introduce women before they were publicly listed, too, but since most of my offers were to women who lived far away, the timing never worked out and I never used that service. That said, there are still quite a few male Black members. For men who make around ten offers a year, I imagine it would be difficult to provide that level of personalized service. Even Black members don’t necessarily make offers only to women in the Black class, either. In my case, I choose my membership class based less on cost-effectiveness and more on whether there are women I actually want to make offers to. My impression is that many of the women in the Black class are glamorous and conventionally beautiful. Since I prefer cute, down-to-earth types, I’m perfectly satisfied with Platinum.

> You say that when you’re not satisfied, you relieve your sexual urges at a men’s esthetic salon. That suggests a men’s esthetic salon may suit you better than a dating club. In the end, it seems that cost-effectiveness is the most important factor. So if you choose a highly cost-effective men’s esthetic salon, you can be satisfied. With dating clubs, perhaps the assumption that spending ten times more will produce ten times the results is what leads to dissatisfaction. If that’s the case, then the option with the best value for money will naturally be the most satisfying. At this point, I suppose men’s esthetic salons offer better cost-effectiveness for you. I think it’s best to pursue what suits you personally. You mentioned being upgraded to the Black tier, but I think that class isn’t really suited to people who prioritize value for money. It may be similar to wondering whether a Black credit card is worth it despite its high annual fee and poor cost-effectiveness.

I may be older than you, but you’ve been active in this scene longer than I have. I can relate to some parts of your question, but not to others. The biggest thing that bothered me was, to put it bluntly: “You’re 55—stop asking about every little thing!” I understand wanting to ask others for advice, since activities at a dating club are highly personal and there’s often a lot to be unsure about. But, in short, your question is basically, “What should I do from here?” I’m still wandering around myself, so I can’t exactly act superior, but I do think it’s important to enjoy the wandering itself. With that in mind, here are a few personal thoughts. > The longest one lasted about three years. Three years isn’t incredibly long, but I’d say it’s definitely on the longer side. I don’t know why you broke up, but have you etched it into your mind as a beautiful memory? My basic attitude is, “Thank you for spending time with an old guy like me!” > I spend around 1.5 to 2 million yen a year on each woman. How about trying to double that amount? I don’t mean simply increasing the allowance—make the overall experience better. For example, upgrade the restaurants and hotels, and start by changing the amount you spend on the time you spend together. This isn’t meant to be bragging—or maybe it is? (Which one is it?) I’ve been a member of Universe for eight years, and my total spending has never reached seven figures in yen. I do believe that, to a certain extent, the quality of the experience is proportional to the amount spent. Of course, you have a budget, so you shouldn’t overextend yourself. But going from 2 million to 4 million yen seems doable. > Recently, I’ve started thinking that things might be different if I upgraded to Black membership and made offers to women in the Black category. If you find someone you really like, I do think upgrading as a last-ditch attempt—this part is important—could be an option. But as long as you’re thinking in terms of “cost-effectiveness,” it will never work out. Personally, I think that’s the one mindset you should avoid most in this setting. > By the way, the women I’m currently seeing are 26 and 24. Try treating them even better than you have so far. Next time you see them, why not smile twice as much as usual? And take them to the most expensive restaurant you’ve ever taken them to. Good luck!