Regarding my regular papa (in his 60s), whom I dated for two years. After repeatedly stalking me and causing all sorts of trouble, he promised recently to pay me compensation for the trouble he had caused, but then never paid and stopped responding.

We met at a nightlife venue. He repeatedly asked me to see him outside the club, but I wanted to avoid any trouble from meeting privately. So I explained many times what I could and couldn’t do, and we agreed on those boundaries. He accepted them, and we started seeing each other once a week, with a monthly allowance. Since we were both married, I also wanted to avoid an affair, so our dates were limited to things like meals and drives. However, it didn’t take long for his demands to gradually grow. He kept asking me to do the very things I had clearly said I couldn’t do and asked him not to request. When I refused, he made sarcastic remarks, became emotionally unstable, and repeatedly forced me into discussions. For example: I had to read and reply to his LINE messages immediately; report what I did every day; work at the nightlife venue only once a week for two or three hours; reserve a certain weekday every week for him; quit working at the venue; promise that I would marry him someday; and so on. All of these were things I had already told him I couldn’t do before agreeing to meet outside the club. I had said that if he expected those things from me, I couldn’t meet him privately. We discussed this many times. At first, he would say, “I understand,” but eventually his thinking became, “You’re the one at fault for not falling in love with me even though I’m giving you an allowance.” After that, it became impossible to reason with him. For the past two years, I had to contact him every day, and he monitored the venue where I worked, so I was only able to work one day a week. Since my work was being restricted, my only income was his allowance, leaving me in a situation where I felt I had no choice but to comply. I also began suffering panic attacks. His prying, monitoring, possessiveness, and restrictions regarding both my private life and my nightlife job became especially severe. I was driven to the brink emotionally, and I even changed venues several times to escape his surveillance. Then, on days when I wasn’t seeing him, he followed me around the area near my workplace in his car and secretly took photos of me with his phone from inside the vehicle. I finally couldn’t take it anymore and warned him that this was criminal behavior. But he became furious and said things like, “I can’t help it because I love you. I was only watching you. I only took the photos for myself, so I haven’t caused you any trouble! You’re the one at fault for not being able to see me every day.” After all of this accumulated, I reached my emotional limit, and he became frustrated that I wouldn’t do everything his way. We began discussing ending the relationship. He suggested that he pay me compensation for the trouble he had caused—including his repeated stalking and restrictions on my work, which had contributed to my panic disorder—and that we then part ways. Paying this compensation was his idea. He brought it up every time we discussed breaking up. Specifically, he offered the equivalent of two or three months’ allowance, essentially as a severance payment. However, after that conversation, he stopped responding. I did receive an allowance from him for two years, but I also lost a great deal due to the immense stress, surveillance, restrictions, and criminal behavior. I at least wanted him to pay the compensation he had promised, but should I just give up now? I know his real name and home address.