Why do I feel guilty or disgusted specifically when my breasts are touched during an adult relationship through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), even though I don’t feel particularly bothered when my intimate area is touched?

It really depends on the person—you may be making assumptions. There are women who don’t allow any touching above the bust. No kissing, no touching their breasts. I’ve met about two women like that as well, but we parted ways right away, so the arrangement didn’t continue. There are plenty of women who are comfortable letting you do various things. This activity can be difficult unless it’s basically erotic. If you’re into that side of it, you’ll probably enjoy it.

I think people’s feelings about that vary from person to person. Some people are fine with showing their breasts but don’t want to show anything below the waist. And among certain minority ethnic groups, women often don’t cover their breasts either, from what I understand. (Although these days, their cultures seem to be changing as people from larger nations come and go. I’ve even heard stories of communities where no one originally covered their breasts, but after becoming more “civilized,” everyone switched to clothing that covered them.) Ultimately, I think it comes down to a person’s past experiences, education, and upbringing. For example, if someone was taught from a young age to view breasts as something sacred, that might shape their feelings. When you’re dating someone, they may wonder why you feel that way. But since that’s genuinely how you feel, I think you should explain that it’s difficult for you and date men who are willing to accept it. If you’re curious about why you feel this way, try thinking about your past experiences and what your parents or the people around you told you. You may be able to find the reason that way.

What comes to mind when you hear “breasts”? That’s probably your answer.